Valentine’s Day is only a thing if you want it to be. If you’re completely opting out of anything to do with 14 February celebrations, then all power to you.
However, if you’re single and you wouldn’t mind a bit of romance in your life, here’s some suggestions on how to bring your A-game to your dating endeavours.
Don’t do desperate
There’s nothing cute about putting a lot of pressure on yourself or on anyone else.
Sure, you might really like to get some dating action on the board, but don’t obsess about it. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn’t, you’ve got plenty of other things sparking joy in your life.
Be relaxed and be yourself. That’s what people find attractive.
Be open to possibilities
One of the things that often prevents us from getting a date is ourselves. You need to break out of your comfortable day-to-day routines. You need to try new things, you need to meet new people.
If someone makes an attempt to start a conversation with you, be present in that and see where it takes you. Make a joke with the barista where you get your coffee. Smile at the barman serving you a drink. Send the universe a few subtle signals that you’re a friendly person who’s totally up for meeting interesting people.
Let people know
Being single is nothing to be embarrassed about. It’s okay to let your friends and social networks know that you’d be interested in meeting some new people. By harnessing the power of the people you know, you’re throwing a much bigger net into the pool of potential dates.
Make a change
It’s easy to comfortable, it’s easy to feel secure when everything is familiar. Change is generally a bit unsettling. But if you’re wanting to meet people that you might want to date, but what you’ve been doing hasn’t been working, then you’re going to have to make a change.
Try changing one thing. What would happen if you went to a different gym? What would happen if you joined a sports or social group? What would happen if bought some new clothes? Change can often bring about some unexpected results.
When it comes to creating opportunities to meet new people, don’t limit yourself. Even if you live in the biggest city in the world, your social circles might be limiting who you are coming into contact with. Book a trip, visit somewhere new, go explore how people live in different places. There’s nothing like a holiday romance to boost your confidence and give you a fresh perspective on life.
Karma is bitch
When it comes to romance, there’s no real science to how you’re supposed to meet the right person at the right time. It’s a bit of a mystery how people actually connect with each other. So, it’s best to be on the safe side with the karma that you’re putting out into the world.
That doesn’t mean that you have to be super-nice to everyone that you ever meet, but it means that you should try your best to be honest and authentic. If someone asks you out or tries to start a conversation with you, don’t be a dick about it. If you’re not into it, be honest and polite. If someone tells you that you’re not what they’re looking for, take it on the chin and move on.
Don’t be racist. Don’t try and shame anyone for who they are. We’re all just flawed people, trying to do our best and muddle our way through life and love.
Use the technology
If you’re serious about meeting some new people and firing up a bit of romance in your life, then you’re going to need to put some effort into online dating.
Online dating isn’t the only way to meet people or get dates, but it’s one of the tools that you’ve got at your disposal, so put it to work.
We’re part of the Gaydar family, so forgive us if we’re a bit biased when it comes to online dating platforms. One of the things that makes Gaydar a bit different is that it offers chat-room functionality — this means that you connect with people in your area or just find people who are interested in similar things to you.
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