Are you into fisting? It’s not for everyone, but there’s something incredibly intimate about being fisted or being able to sink your fist into a guy’s ass – it’s the ultimate trust exercise.

Let’s take a look at the allure of fisting and how you can level-up your fisting fun.

Why Do Gay Men Fist?

“Fisting isn’t for everyone…” advises Luka Sage – a certified fisting specialist. “It’s not something that everyone has to try. But if it is something that you’re interested in trying, you should definitely research it and learn about it before making an attempt. If you like the feeling of being stretched out, or if you’re into really big dicks, or big dildos, or depth play, then it’s probably something you might want to take a look at.”

There’s lots of factors at play when you’re navigating a fisting session – different aspects of the experience will appeal to different guys, depending on what pushes your buttons.

Extreme anal stimulation is definitely one of the main drivers. If you’ve been working your way up the dildo sizes, a fist is definitely going to be on your to-do list. If you’re watching a lot of fisting porn and your hole is aching to be worked over like the fist-pigs on your screen, then anal stimulation is going to be high on your wish-list.

Control and submission is another important aspect of fisting that appeals to a lot of guy. If you are giving a guy the green light to grease up his fists and get to work ruining your cunt, then that’s a pretty big deal. The power-dynamic that’s at play is pretty intoxicating for everyone involved.

Intimacy is another thing that lots of fisting experts will talk about. Plain old barebacking can sometimes feel a bit transactional – fuck, cum, go. But fisting is a whole other ball-game. You’ve got to be a bit slower with fisting, you need a fair bit of communication when you’re fisting, and you’re also getting lots of eye contact. There’s possibly nothing quite as romantic as being fisted.

Is Fisting Dangerous?

Someone people describe fisting as a bit of an extreme sexual sport – a pursuit that inevitably comes with some risks.

While it’s true that if fisting goes wrong, then you can do some damage but that is pretty much true of anything that you tackle.

Your body copes surprisingly well with having a guy’s fist stretching out your sphincter. There’s nothing inherently bad about fisting – you’re not going to do your body any long-term damage. Your sphincter is totally used to stretching and contracting as the situation requires.

The main risks associated with fisting are when you’re not using enough lube or you’re taking things too fast.

It’s a good idea to be sober when you’re fisting. If you’re intoxicated on something then you won’t be as in tune with your body if something starts to hurt or feels uncomfortable.

How Do I Practice Fisting Before Gay Sex?

It’s pretty much impossible to have a conversation at a gay bar without someone giving you anal sex tips, but if you’re a bit fist-curious then here’s some easy steps to get you started.

Slow and steady wins the race
Before you take a fist up your ass, you’re going to need to practice and you’re going to need to research. Get comfortable with ass play. Watch lots of fisting porn – get a feel for how fisting works.

Become a size queen

Make sure that you’re feeling confident about taking a fist by slowly working your way up in the size of the dildos that you’re bouncing on. Think about girth – that’s what is probably going to test you the most.

Fisting foreplay

If you’re ready for some fisting fun, don’t forget to warm everything up with some extended foreplay. You want to feel relaxed, you want to feel turned-on, and you want your fuck-hole twitching in expectation at being properly worked over.

Lube it up

Fisting specialists will generally have a special lube mix that they swear by. If you’re just starting out, you’re probably still experimenting with the different lube options out there. The basic rule is to use plenty of lube. Really go to town with the grease and make sure that everything is sliding smoothly.

First Time Fisting with a Friend? Follow These Tips.

Because of the intimacy required by fisting, you generally want to make sure that you’re doing it with someone that you know and trust.

A fuck-buddy is ideal because you’ve already established that you work together sexually, and then adding fisting into the mix is taking things that step further.

You just need to keep reminding yourself to take it slow. Sure, the experts in fisting porn are taking a guy’s arm up to the elbow like it’s nothing. It’s not a competition. Just do what feels right for you.

Communication is absolutely key. That doesn’t mean that you have to give a running commentary through the experience – your communication may be mostly non-verbal. But use plenty of eye contact. Let him know when you’re feeling good and let him know when you need to slow down or take a break.

A beginner’s guide to fisting

Are you into fisting?

Maybe you’ve been watching a bit of fisting porn and you’re interested in giving it a try? Let’s take a look at how to get started.

Manage your expectations

You’re going to have to start small. You’re going to need to take it slow. Sure, you might aspire to emulate your favourite fisting porn-stars and take a guy’s arm up to his armpit, but that takes a lot of practice.

Start off with some toys – gradually getting bigger in length and girth. You need to know how to open your hole and get it ready for more.

Just because it looks easy in a porn scene doesn’t mean that it’s going to be easy in real life.

Manage your the other guy’s expectations

There’s no shame in being a beginner at anything – that includes fisting. Don’t pretend to be an expert fister or fistee if you’re not. Be open and honest about where you’re at on your fisting journey.

Guys that are into fisting generally love to talk about fisting and discuss every aspect. Get involved in the conversation.

Become a lube expert

High quality toys are expensive – you’re looking at high-grade silicone that is soft and feels good when you shove it up your ass.

Some lubes can damage your toys. Make sure you read any instructions that come with the toys. Water-lubes are generally a safe bet, but aren’t necessarily the most fun to play with.

Fisting generally requires different lube to what you’re using with your toys or when you’re just fucking. The old-school classic is Crisco, but there are specialty fisting lubes on the market. You’re going to want to experiment and find what works best for you.

Some guys will wear gloves when they’re fisting you. This can help reduce the risk of infections or scratches.

Not everyone is into fisting

There’s obviously more extreme kinks out there, but some guys aren’t into fisting. Some guys might even try to kink-shame you for being into fisting. Kink-shaming isn’t cool, but if the guy that you’re hooking up with isn’t into fisting, then there’s plenty of other things that you can do together.

Tackle fisting with a clear head

You’re probably going to want some poppers on hand, but try and avoid any other substances or alcohol when you’re planning a fisting session.

If you’re drunk or high, you might not realise when you’re pushing your body beyond its limits.

Trust is the essential starting point

Fisting is incredibly intimate and requires a high level of trust. You’re probably going to want to try and find regular fisting buddies that you can connect with and explore fisting with on a regular basis.

You’re less likely to hurt yourself if you’re exploring with someone who knows your limits and is able to read your body-language.

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