All about bottoming!
In terms of sex, the bottom describes the person who is receiving the penetration. There are perceptions that connect being a bottom to having a more passive, submissive mindset. This can certainly be true but is by no means a given – there’s nothing stopping you being a dominant and aggressive bottom. Another misconception is that bottoms are somehow less masculine – again, not true.
Being a bottom means that you like being fucked in the ass. Let’s explore that.
Helpful tips for bottoming
Practice makes perfect
The first time might not always feel super-pleasurable – getting fucked is a pretty intense sensation. It’s a lot to process.
It’s a good idea to practice before you commit to the real thing. A great way to do this is with some anal toys for beginners. There are many smaller toys that that will get you used to the sensation, and you can grow in size. If toys are not your thing you can start with fingering or ask your play partner to finger you and slowly add a finger to the mix. Do this until you feel ready for your man’s meat.
Always be prepared
Eat lots of soluble and insoluble fibres – this is found in foods such as peas, oats, nuts, wheat bran, vegetables, banana, apples. This will help with maximising digestion with the aim to be clean.
Give your ass a douche will ensure that you’re clean and confident and ready for action.
Good Lube = Better Sex
Lube will make being penetrated so much easier – done right, bottoming should be pain free. There are so many lubes available but we would recommend to start with a hybrid lube. This is water-based lube with a hint of silicone. It stays wet for longer and won’t damage your toys.
Try various positions
Try as many positions as you can think of, you might be surprised on what you enjoy the most. Also work your hips, and lower back. Feel what is happening and react. Arching your back and tilting your hips a certain way can work wonders, play with it.
Have fun and don’t worry too much
After all this preparation the most important thing is to create a space where you are happy for it to happen. The main thing now is to relax and enjoy your man, let it all happen and let go of any concerns. If there is something you are not enjoying just communicate it and direct play towards a something else.
What are the best sex positions for Bottoms?
Sex is a pretty intuitive thing — generally it just kind of happens. You might push each other’s bodies into the positions that you want to explore, one of you might be taking the lead and coordinating any position changes, or you might just lie there like a starfish and let him do whatever he wants.
There’s obviously lots of variations when it comes to sex, and different guys might call them different things or you may not bother to give them a name at all.
Here’s some of the basics that you’ll be encountering on a fairly frequent basis.
The Bottom is on his hands and knees and the Top enters him from behind.
With this one, the bottom is on his back and the top is holding the bottom’s legs up in the air for full access to the fuck-hole.
The bottom is face-down and the top is fucking him from behind. This is different to Doggy Style because the bottom isn’t kneeling, they’re flat to the bed or the floor or wherever they’re being fucked.
The top is big spoon and the bottom is little spoon.
The bottom could be face down or face up, but the top is holding onto the bottom’s legs to control the fuck.