What should I eat before anal sex?
Whether you’re planning a big night out, thinking ahead to a hookup you’ve got planned, or just planning a romantic night for two, your search history might include something along the lines of – When can I eat before anal sex? What foods are good for anal sex? What’s a good diet for anal sex?
When it comes to food, anal sex is a bit like swimming – if you’ve had a big meal, the general rule is that you want to wait a bit before jumping straight in there. But is there an ideal diet for bottoms?
If you’re a guy who enjoys a bit of anal play, you’ll know that you want to be feeling clean and confident before someone starts sticking things up your butt. Unsurprisingly, there’s a direct connection between the state of our butt and what we eat – your day-to-day diet is inevitably going to play a role in your sex life.
What to eat
Following a healthy diet in your day-to-day life is a sensible idea regardless of what sort of sex that you enjoy, but if you’re going to be having anal sex then healthy choices are a good option.
What exactly does a healthy diet look like for bottoms?
Something that you definitely want to be thinking about is fibre – it plays a really important role in the digestive system. Fibre isn’t just some kind of supplement that you can take at the last minute before you head off to a sex party, it needs to be incorporated into your diet over an extended period of time.
There’s two types of fibre – soluble fibre and insoluble fibre. As the terms suggest, soluble fibres absorb water and help keep everything moving smoothly, whereas insoluble fibres don’t absorb water and keep everything moving efficiently. A good balance of both is what you’re looking for.
Soluble fibres come from fruits, and insoluble fibres comes from grains and vegetables. Health food stores will have fibre supplements available if you think you need to boost the fibre in your diet. Make sure you’re drinking plenty of water to get those soluble fibres working.
Avoid processed foods
Processed foods aren’t great, and they tend to mess with your digestion. Try and go for fresh, organic foods wherever possible. Avoid foods that are high in sugar.
Things like carbonated drinks or beer can make you feel gassy and bloated. A lot of guys recommend avoiding dairy in the lead-up to anal.
Spicy foods with lots of chilli and pepper are obviously delicious, but they’re difficult for your body to deal with, and can cause some unpredictable movements in your digestive system. If you’re planning ahead for anal sex, try and avoid any spicy foods.
Read meat is a great source of protein, but it takes a long time for your body to digest. If you’re eating a lot of red meat and it’s slowing down your digestive system, then you might not be as clean and confident as you’d like to be.
The final preparations
Whatever you’ve eaten, you may still want the extra certainty of giving yourself a clean with a douche of some kind. Douching properly takes time and practice – don’t rush it, and don’t try and do it at the last minute before heading out for the night.
Giving yourself some pre-work with a dildo will also help ensure that you’re clean and confident and ready for action.
Understand your body
There’s no getting around that the primary function of your butt is to expel your body’s faeces – the waste matter, the shit. If everything is working as it’s supposed to, and your diet is good, then you should be able to enjoy great anal sex without much more preparation than a thorough clean in the shower and plenty of lube.
It’s great to share tips and get advice from friends, but ultimately you need to figure out what works best for you. You know your body best.
If your stomach is feeling a bit upset or you’re not feeling up for anal sex for whatever reason, just take a rain-check on that activity. There’s plenty of other ways that you can get each other off – it’s totally okay to make it clear that anal sex isn’t on the menu.
Anal sex – a guide to the basics
If you want to start sticking things up your butt, you’re going to need some lubrication – everyone just refers to this as lube.
Most pharmacies and supermarkets will sell lube in some form, but your best bet is to go to a specialist retailer or online store and buy lube that’s designed for anal play.
There’s different types of lube out there, and it’s worth experimenting to find what works best for you. The main distinction is between a water-based lube or a silicone-based lube.
If you’re using condoms, you need a water-based lube. Silicone-based lube can deteriorate the condom.
Water-based lubes are generally easier to clean up, and will wash easily out of sheets and clothing.
However, you’ll probably get more pleasure out of a silicone-based lube. These tend to last longer, don’t need to be reapplied so much, and can give you a smoother sensation as you’re being fucked or enjoying some ass-play.
We’re at our most vulnerable – physically and emotionally – when we’re having sex. Anal sex requires trust because you’re going to enjoy it more if you’re both relaxed and feeling comfortable with what you’re doing.
If you’re feeling anxious, your body will instinctively tense up. This is why it’s generally best not to rush into anal sex – ease into it, build up to it, get comfortable with each other.
If you’re wanting anal sex – whether you’re getting fucked or doing the fucking – you can’t just try jamming a cock in there and hoping for the best. You’re going to get the best results if you put in some pre-work.
There’s lots of variations on this, but in really basic terms think of it as the top putting some preparation into the guy-hole he’s about to fuck. You need to relax the bottom’s hole – you want to get it relaxed, loose, lubricated, and ready to take your cock.
There’s a number of ways you can go about this, and it’s generally best to do them all. Don’t be impatient – the more pre-work you put in, the more fun it’s going to be for both of you.
Rimming is a really good place to start. Put your mouth to work on his hole. Licking, spitting, chewing – really get your tongue in there and get everything as wet as possible. This is fun to do as a top, and super-pleasurable for the bottom.
Add your fingers into the mix. You can do this while you’re rimming or you might start to introduce some lube at this stage. Start with one finger, add a second, build to three. Again, your objective here is to relax the hole, loosen the hole, and get the hole lubed up and ready for action. All of this should be giving your bottom a lot of pleasure. If things are feeling a bit tight, add more lube and keep at it. Don’t rush things, take your time.
Depending on how you’re both feeling, you might want to move on to a toy or a dildo. As well as being fun for you both, a dildo is just going to help you on that journey towards being ready for some solid fucking. Being worked over by a dildo is going to help the bottom feel confident and ready to take things to the next level.
Finally, it’s dick time. Add some more lube, find a position that works for both of you, and start slowly. Use some momentum in your hips to gradually work your cock in and make sure you’re both ready to take it up a gear. Steadily build the power of your thrusts. You don’t have to have sex like a porn-star, but try changing positions. If the bottom is letting you know what’s feeling good, then keep doing more of what’s feeling good and go to town – this is your reward for all of that pre-work.