Everything that you need to know about guy-on-guy anal sex
A sexual encounter between guys doesn’t always have to include anal sex, but it’s definitely up there on the menu of what’s likely to happen when guys get together, get naked, and want to have some fun.
Guy-on-guy anal sex isn’t something that’s generally covered in sex-ed classes in school, so we tend to learn by watching porn and a fair bit of trial and error.
You probably know all of this already, but – just in case – here’s some basic life lessons about anal sex that we’ve picked up over the years.
Anal sex – a guide to the basics
If you want to start sticking things up your butt, you’re going to need some lubrication – everyone just refers to this as lube.
Most pharmacies and supermarkets will sell lube in some form, but your best bet is to go to a specialist retailer or online store and buy lube that’s designed for anal play.
There’s different types of lube out there, and it’s worth experimenting to find what works best for you. The main distinction is between a water-based lube or a silicone-based lube.
If you’re using condoms, you need a water-based lube. Silicone-based lube can deteriorate the condom.
Water-based lubes are generally easier to clean up, and will wash easily out of sheets and clothing.
However, you’ll probably get more pleasure out of a silicone-based lube. These tend to last longer, don’t need to be reapplied so much, and can give you a smoother sensation as you’re being fucked or enjoying some ass-play.
We’re at our most vulnerable – physically and emotionally – when we’re having sex. Anal sex requires trust because you’re going to enjoy it more if you’re both relaxed and feeling comfortable with what you’re doing.
If you’re feeling anxious, your body will instinctively tense up. This is why it’s generally best not to rush into anal sex – ease into it, build up to it, get comfortable with each other.
If you’re wanting anal sex – whether you’re getting fucked or doing the fucking – don’t just ram a cock in there and hope for the best. You’re going to get the best results if you put in some pre-work.
There’s lots of variations on this, but – in really basic terms – think of it as the top putting some preparation into the man-hole of the guy he’s about to fuck. You need to relax the bottom’s hole – you want to get it relaxed, loose, lubricated, and ready to take your cock.
There’s a number of ways you can go about this, and it’s generally best to do them all. Don’t be impatient – the more pre-work you put in, the more fun it’s going to be for both of you.
Rimming is a really good place to start. Put your mouth to work on his hole. Licking, spitting, chewing – really get your tongue in there and get everything as wet as possible. This is fun to do as a top, and super-pleasurable for the bottom.
Add your fingers into the mix. You can do this while you’re rimming or you might start to introduce some lube at this stage. Start with one finger, add a second, build to three. Again, your objective here is to relax the hole, loosen the hole, and get the hole lubed up and ready for action. All of this should be giving your bottom a lot of pleasure. If things are feeling a bit tight, add more lube and keep at it. Don’t rush things, take your time.
Depending on how you’re both feeling, you might want to move on to a toy or a dildo. As well as being fun for you both, a dildo is just going to help you on that journey towards being ready for some solid fucking. Being worked over by a dildo is going to help the bottom feel confident and ready to take things to the next level.
Finally, it’s dick time. Add some more lube, find a position that works for both of you, and start slowly.
You’re probably going to feel a bit of initial discomfort, but it shouldn’t be painful. If you’re feeling pain when he’s pushing his cock into you, you need more pre-work. Don’t feel rushed – it’s okay to slow things down and put some more time into ensuring that you’re relaxed, loose, and ready.
To get started, the top should use some momentum in his hips to gradually work his cock in and to make sure that you’re both ready to take it up a gear.
If you’re the bottom and you haven’t been fucked by this top before, you may prefer to start out by positioning yourself on top of him and riding his cock – this gives you a bit more control as your body gets used to taking his cock inside you.
As the top begins to find his rhythm he should steadily build the power of his thrusts.
You don’t have to have sex like a porn-star, but try changing positions every now and then. Some angles will work better than others. Communicate. Take a break, get some water, get back to work. This doesn’t have to be a sprint.
If you’re the top and the bottom is letting you know what’s feeling good, then keep doing more of what’s feeling good and go to town – this is your reward for all of that pre-work.
It’s a bit easier if you’re having sex within a relationship, or it’s repeat business with a regular fuck-buddy, you get to know what works for you both and you get to know what you both like.
With a one-off hook-up, it’s not always as straightforward. Try and communicate as much as possible. If you’re the one getting fucked, let the top know if you want him to take it slow or go hard and rough. If you’re whoring yourself out as an eager fuck-hole ready to be used, different guys will have different interpretations of what that means. Communicate as much as you can to help ensure that everyone gets to enjoy a satisfying sexual encounter.
Set the mood
You’ll probably want to put some music on, and it’s often helpful to have some porn playing. Make sure that you’re music and porn choices work for the type of guy-on-guy encounter you’re looking for.
What should I eat before anal sex?
Whether you’re planning a big night out, thinking ahead to a hookup you’ve got planned, or just planning a romantic night for two, your search history might include something along the lines of – When can I eat before anal sex? What foods are good for anal sex? What’s a good diet for anal sex?
When it comes to food, anal sex is a bit like swimming – if you’ve had a big meal, the general rule is that you want to wait a bit before jumping straight in there. But is there an ideal diet for bottoms?
If you’re a guy who enjoys a bit of anal play, you’ll know that you want to be feeling clean and confident before someone starts sticking things up your butt. Unsurprisingly, there’s a direct connection between the state of our butt and what we eat – your day-to-day diet is inevitably going to play a role in your sex life.
Following a healthy diet in your day-to-day life is a sensible idea regardless of what sort of sex that you enjoy, but if you’re going to be having anal sex then healthy choices are a good option.
What exactly does a healthy diet look like for bottoms?
Something that you definitely want to be thinking about is fibre – it plays a really important role in the digestive system. Fibre isn’t just some kind of supplement that you can take at the last minute before you head off to a sex party, it needs to be incorporated into your diet over an extended period of time.
There’s two types of fibre – soluble fibre and insoluble fibre. As the terms suggest, soluble fibres absorb water and help keep everything moving smoothly, whereas insoluble fibres don’t absorb water and keep everything moving efficiently. A good balance of both is what you’re looking for.
Soluble fibres come from fruits, and insoluble fibres comes from grains and vegetables. Health food stores will have fibre supplements available if you think you need to boost the fibre in your diet. Make sure you’re drinking plenty of water to get those soluble fibres working.
Avoid processed foods
Processed foods aren’t great, and they tend to mess with your digestion. Try and go for fresh, organic foods wherever possible. Avoid foods that are high in sugar.
Things like carbonated drinks or beer can make you feel gassy and bloated. A lot of guys recommend avoiding dairy in the lead-up to anal sex.
Spicy foods with lots of chilli and pepper are obviously delicious, but they’re difficult for your body to deal with, and can cause some unpredictable movements in your digestive system. If you’re planning ahead for anal sex, try and avoid any spicy foods.
Read meat is a great source of protein, but it takes a long time for your body to digest. If you’re eating a lot of red meat and it’s slowing down your digestive system, then you might not be as clean and confident as you’d like to be.
The final preparations
Whatever you’ve eaten, you may still want the extra certainty of giving yourself a clean out with a douche of some kind. Douching properly takes time and practice – don’t rush it, and don’t try and do it at the last minute before heading out for the night.
Try not to douche too often – it’s not great for your butt. A couple of times a week is probably okay, but the more you can leave your butt to just naturally do its thing, the better it will feel.
Once you’ve douched and you think that you’re ready to go, giving yourself some pre-work with a dildo will also help ensure that you’re clean and confident and ready for action.
Understand your body
There’s no getting around the fact that the primary function of your butt is to expel your body’s faeces – the waste matter, the shit. If everything is working as it’s supposed to, and your diet is good, then you should be able to enjoy great anal sex without much more preparation than a thorough clean in the shower and plenty of lube.
It’s great to share tips and get advice from friends, but ultimately you need to figure out what works best for you. You know your body best.
If your stomach is feeling a bit upset or you’re not feeling up for anal sex for whatever reason, just take a rain-check on that activity. There’s plenty of other ways that you can get each other off – it’s totally okay to make it clear that anal sex isn’t on the menu.
How can I fuck like a porn star?
The porn that fuels our fap fantasies frequently showcases guys with enormous cocks slamming relentlessly into guys with gaping fuck-holes. They fuck for ages and then cum bucketloads – generally managing to coordinate things so that they cum at the same time.
It can sometimes feel a bit overwhelming if your sexual encounters don’t match up to what porn shows us we should be aspiring to.
It’s important to remember that porn isn’t real – it’s a fantasy. Even the amateur stuff that guys have filmed on their phone. It’s adjacent to real, but it’s still an edited version of how things actually went down.
When you’re filming a porn scene, there’s lots of stuff that you cut out – you’re showing the edited highlights, you’re creating a fantasy for the viewer.
Away from the cameras, porn stars are just regular guys. You’ll see them at the gym, in the bar, on your dating app. But what are some of the porn-star tricks that they’re taking into their personal lives?
Porn-star tricks for Tops
How do you make sure that you’re ready to step up to the plat and tear up that fuck-hole? Here’s some suggestions:
- Think about hygiene. Cleaning your teeth and making sure that your breath smells fresh is a good starting point. Having a shower before sex is generally a really good idea. Don’t use deodorant – someone’s face is probably going to end up in your armpit and they don’t want to eat deodorant.
- Don’t do chems – the drugs will make it difficult to get hard and stay hard.
- Medication such as Viagra or Cialis can be used to get your cock hard and keep your cock hard. In theory, if you’re a healthy guy then you won’t need to take this kind of enhancement. But, if anxiety is messing with your head, or you want to have an extended fuck-down session without any worries about staying hard, then taking something like Viagra or Cialis is pretty much everyone’s go-to.
- When porn stars are on set filming, they will generally use an injection such as Trimax. This is injected straight into the cock and keeps you rock-hard for an extended period of time. You wouldn’t inject yourself with Trimax for an off-camera hook-up – these kind of products effectively desensitise your cock and make it difficult to cum.
- In porn scenes, we often see the Tops getting really verbal – telling the Bottom what they’re going to do, what they’re doing, and what they’ve done. Think of it as taking on a character – when you decide to be the Top in a sexual encounter, you need to embrace that. Channel your aggression and machismo into making sure that you’re giving that Bottom the fuck of his life.
Porn-star tricks for Bottoms
We’ve already covered lots of detail about what to eat, and making sure that you’re clean and confident, but here’s some additional suggestions to ensure that you’re ready to take whatever the top is willing to give:
- Be up to speed with your health. If you’re taking cum up your ass, you either need to be taking medication and be Undetectable or taking PrEP.
- It’s not just your fuck-hole that should be clean and confident. Don’t forget to clean your teeth and ensure that you’re looking good and smelling great.
- After you’ve douched and get yourself ready, taking a bath can be a good way to ensure that your body is relaxed.
- Kick-start the pre-work by working yourself over with a dildo, then putting a butt-plug in to help you to stay ready.
- Applying some haemorrhoid cream to your butt will help to desensitise things.
- Think about what you’re going to be wearing when the Top arrives. A couple of reveals adds to the fun – sexy booty-shorts that reveal to a jockstrap or a thong is always a crowd-pleaser.
Porn-star tricks for cum-shots
In a porn-scene, the cum-shot is known as the money-shot. Everyone wants to the guys – especially the tops – cum bucketloads.
Everyone is different as to how much cum they produce, and there’s no guarantees on the various methods you can try to maximise your load.
Here’s some things you can try:
- Abstain from cumming for a period before having sex. You could try not having sex or jacking off for something like 24 hours before your hook-up. It’s generally thought that this will help ensure that you’ll shoot a big load.
- Dose up on your vitamins. A healthy diet is always going to be a good start to ensuring that everything is functioning like it should, but if you’re looking for a boost, try taking some supplements – Vitamin C, Vitamin D, and Zinc are worth trying.
- Fruit juice is seen as a way of boosting your load. Pineapple juice is believed to make your cum taste better, while pomegranate juice is believed to help boost your volume.
We’re all different, and what we find sexy or what we fantasise about varies from guy to guy.
“One time, I was in Florida on a family vacation and managed to get away to go to Club Orlando…” remembers nycboy_cumhole, reflecting on some of his sexual highlights. “I was there for several hours, and took 10 cocks and eight loads. Another time, I was bred by a couple guys at a glory-hole in NYC, then met up with a fuck-buddy who has a nine-inch cock and a sling – he churned their cum in me and added his own. The next day, I met a guy on a hook-up app and was fucked and bred in his office bathroom. Then I went to an adult book-store and took two more loads.”