Simon Dunn gets real – opening up about body issues and mental health
Simon Dunn – an Olympic bobsled competitor and high-profile rugby player with the Kings Cross Steelers – has written a candid and personal message about his social media persona and his struggles with body image and mental health.
Dunn posted a photo of himself on the rugby field, alongside a lengthy statement about what that photo meant to him.
“The online persona I show you is all photoshoots, parties and magazine covers…” wrote Dunn. “This hasn’t always been entirely the truth. Earlier this year, I found myself back in Australia, living in a country town in my mother’s spare room and financially broke.”
“Having to rebuild my life at the time felt like a monumental task. I honestly didn’t think I could do it. I stopped looking after myself, drinking most weekends away, stopped training, all things which compounded the low point I was in. It honestly felt all the years of hard work had only led me back to where I began. For the first time in my life I’d felt anxiety, which was something new, scary and very overwhelming at times.”
“Only weeks earlier I was living in London with my partner, running my own business, attending every party I was invited to, appearing in countless photoshoots and magazines. Before this I was in North America representing Australia in bobsleigh, training and competing, whilst getting flown to media gigs and appearances all around the world.”
“I was passionate about doing everything I could to show the world that out and proud athletes exist. I felt the world was my oyster and this was my chance to do exactly that. I felt like I’d failed and let so many people down. Life over the last several years has been a truly amazing adventure. This now felt all but a distant memory. Many tears were cried over many nights, and some days I didn’t want to even get out of bed.”
“This image is me at the height of that time, I questioned if I should post it because it doesn’t portray the person I show the world. There’s no abs, I was unhappy and lost. It portrays the real me, someone who, like everyone else, has obstacles they need to overcome. My little victory is being able to post it now, only a few months later, passionate for life again and looking forward to the next adventure.”
“The Simon you see online is the Simon I want you to see, maybe it’s my pride or the influence of social media, but it’s not always as it seems. Life is a series of ups and downs, just remember – there’s always light at the end of the tunnel no matter how dark it may seem!”
Are LGBTQ people particularly susceptible to mental health issues?
When you read personal stories such as that of Simon Dunn, you start to become a bit more aware that the resilience that we often associate with LGBTQ people isn’t foolproof. We can all have dark moments, and if your support networks miss the signals, then it’s easy to become a statistic, another queer person who didn’t make it.
The UK’s National Health Service – the NHS – confirms that their studies demonstrate that queer men experience higher levels of anxiety, depression, and suicidal feelings than heterosexual men. Rates of drug and alcohol misuse have also been found to be higher.
According to the NHS, poor levels of mental health among gay and bisexual people have often been linked to experiences of homophobic discrimination and bullying. For some, other factors such as age, religion or ethnicity can further complicate mental distress
The NHS also confirms that many queer men have experienced:
- Hostility or rejection from family, parents and friends.
- Bullying and name calling at school.
- Rejection by most mainstream religions.
- Danger of violence in public places.
- Harassment from neighbours and other tenants.
- Casual homophobic comments on an everyday basis.
- Embarrassed responses – and occasionally prejudice – from medical professionals.
- Discrimination at work.
- Negative portrayal of gay people in the media.
The NHS studies explicitly link the experiencing of these difficulties to the mental health issues that queer men often struggle with, including:
- Difficulty accepting their sexual orientation, leading to conflicts, denial, alcohol abuse and isolation.
- Trying to keep their sexuality a secret through lying, pretending, or leading a double life.
- Low self-esteem.
- Increased risk of self-harm and suicide attempts.
- Damaged relationships or lack of support from families.
- Post-traumatic stress disorder and depression from long-term effects of bullying.
LGBTQ people are incredibly resilient and, in general, we’re pretty good at presenting a positive image to the world. However, regardless of what our Instagram may be telling you, the reality may be much darker, and much more complex.
Make sure that you regularly check-in with your queer friends. Don’t assume that they’re doing great just because that’s what their social media status updates suggest. They may not even realise that they’re at risk of falling apart.