Are you ready to unlock the power of your orgasm?
If you’ve ever wanted to make your masturbation sessions a bit more interesting, you might be interested in the range of instructional videos and courses available on Orgasmic Men.
Marc Peridis is one of the industry professionals whose work is featured on Orgasmic Men. Marc specialises in helping you to unlock the power of your orgasm. It’s all about taking your jack-off joy to a whole new level.
What happens at an Orgasmic Shaman workshop?
We caught up with Marc to talk about his workshops and courses and to understand how they can help guys to unlock their erotic essence.
Are online workshops for this kind of thing a viable alternative to face-to-face sessions?
Online sessions are something that I’ve been doing for a long time.
I travel a lot, and I teach workshops around the world. I meet people that want to work more with me, and the only way to do that is online.
The Covid-19 lock-down around the world somehow made that seem more normal to everyone – it’s made people more open to it. I think the lock-down enabled people to understand that you can get as much out of this sort of experience online as you can in person.
From a practical perspective, it’s easier to teach someone a breath or sound when you’re face-to-face – it’s easier to demonstrate or correct the technique and to be more hands-on when you’re physically in the same space. But you can still have a very strong impact through an online session.
In a lot of cases – in an online session – people relax more and feel less self-conscious, because they’re at home. Often, people that benefit the most from this kind of session are socially anxious people. An online session that you can do from home means that you don’t have to get on public transport or get in a car to get to the appointment. You don’t have to face anyone, you’re already in a space where you feel comfortable.
These sessions involve genital stimulation. We’re making sounds we don’t normally make, and we’re moving in ways that we don’t normally move. It can make you feel incredibly self-conscious. Online sessions make all of that easier.
Personally, I prefer to conduct workshops in person – there’s a beauty to the physical connection and the physical energy being shared. But online workshops are a good place to start.
Given that most men figure out how to masturbate through trial and error, is it likely that we’re learning bad techniques?
Not necessarily bad techniques, but it’s what I call pattern masturbation. What we’re doing is generally very restricted and very limited.
We tend to learn masturbation from an older brother, from friends, or by watching porn. I remember being nine or ten, watching porn and being scared and nervous – trying to get it done without being caught by my parents. I often got caught. Learning about masturbation in that way involves a lot of compression and tension.
Our masturbation experience tends to be very localised – generally just around the penis, sometimes around the anus, sometimes we touch our nipples.
Most of us masturbate while watching porn. Our eyes are looking ahead – at a screen or a phone or a device. It’s all very linear and it’s all very localised. That means we’re not very engaged at an integrated level – we’re not engaging the different parts of our body.
This kind of localised and limited and compressed masturbation has a localised effect on the brain. We develop a dependence on instant gratification. We want gratification now, and we want gratification in a very specific way.
To move beyond pattern masturbation, we need to retrain ourselves in how we jerk-off. The best way to do that is to integrate the full-body experience. Some people describe this as a full-body orgasm. We’re harnessing all of the energy of our body and unlocking our highest potential.
Masturbation isn’t something we often get to talk about with other guys – it’s generally a bit of a taboo topic. What generally leads guys to trying one of your masturbation sessions?
We were all masturbating a lot during lockdown, so that has put some focus on it. But it’s part of a general trend of guys wanting to get more out of their masturbation time.
For thousands of years, we’ve been taught that masturbation was wrong and that sex was wrong. I think that we’re turning a page – we’re reversing the damage that has been done – we’re allowing ourselves to really enjoy and receive our pleasure, and also to channel it towards our personal growth and being the best version of ourselves.
We’re starting to realise the importance of self-pleasuring – in terms of us trying to be a whole being. As men, we need to become better lovers to ourselves so that we can become better lovers to other people. Being more at one with ourselves means that when we’re with someone else, we can be more present. That’s a better experience for everybody – it’s deeper, richer, and a more intense sexual experience.
My workshops aren’t just about getting your rocks off, it’s about spiritual growth in a really pleasurable way.
Are there any simple techniques that we’d all benefit from, or is everyone different?
The first step is to understand your body – to get to know yourself. What does my body feel like? How open is my body? How receptive is my body? Do I ejaculate quickly or does it take some time? Do I have a bigger cock or a smaller cock? Is my cock sensitive or not?
When I’m working with men, that’s always the first thing we do – slow down and let’s get to know our bodies. That’s when we realise that everybody’s body is completely different.
Looking at my body, I have a very sensitive penis. I don’t have the biggest penis in the world. I’m uncut. For a long time, I didn’t think that I’d be able to teach Tantra – I’d be in classes and I’d constantly have to tell people to slow down. I had to learn how to put those boundaries up and tell people that they had to be a bit more gentle with me because I have a particularly sensitive penis.
A good friend of mine in Los Angeles teaches masturbation techniques that are 100 percent cock-based – purely focused on cock-strokes and edging techniques. He’s a great guy and I definitely recommend his work, but it’s not something that I’m particularly interested in. I’m not particularly cock-focused – I really enjoy engaging with my entire body.
It’s good to explore different techniques and explore what different people can teach you, but you’ve got to make time to listen to your body.
The number one tip that I give to guys is that when you’re in the middle of jacking off, make the time to slow down, tune into your body and see what your body wants. Does your body want you to keep tugging and pulling on your cock, or does it want to be caressed on the chest? Does it want you to pinch yourself, or spank yourself? Do you need lube? Do you not need lube?
The sensations our body experiences when we’re jerking off are arrows speaking to us. Those arrows are the key to a better connection with other people. We have to keep going back and listening to our body.
How often should we be masturbating?
There’s not really any right or wrong answer to this. Once a day? Twice a day? What matters is building a practice that feeds you and nourishes you.
You need to be intuitive enough to know the difference between whether it’s nourishing you or taking you away from something else that you should be doing. If you’re spending so much time using porn or masturbating that you’re not getting other things done or lacking sleep, then that might be a concern.
I’m definitely a fan of ejaculation. I like to ejaculate every day. But I’ve been in that situation where I’ve been using a lot of porn and masturbating a lot – my penis would hurt and I wouldn’t want to have sex with my partner. We’ve got to listen to our body.
I do believe that everyone should have a self-pleasuring session at least once a day. I’d suggest going for at least 40 minutes to an hour, at least once a day. Maybe not ejaculating every day – maybe holding it and ejaculating every second day – but that’s just personally what I believe should be a minimum.
Your sessions are men-only – are these sessions just for guys who are into other guys?
It is generally men who identify as gay or bisexual who come to these workshops. In these times of lock-down and isolation, we’re seeking connection, and we’re missing our normal opportunities for sexual activity.
I get a lot of feedback from guys who are surprised by how much they end up focusing on their own bodies, rather than who else is in the session. I’m guiding everyone to explore their own body and what’s within them. It’s important to get stimulation from what’s around you – other guys or porn – but these sessions are about tuning into what’s happening with your body, and being very aware of that.
The sexual element is present, and it’s very important. Sex is the number one way for us to connect.
Sex is also a very transformative energy. I’m currently doing a series of workshops which are all about discovering your erotic essence. It’s all about the power of the orgasm. We’re talking about very serious topics – trauma, physical injuries, mental health issues. We can use the sexual energy of jacking off combined with breathing and touch techniques to bring healing and transformation and growth and to step into our limitless potential.
How do your online workshops differ from cam-sex and online jack-off sessions?
It’s easy to understand why people would think that that’s what we’re doing, but the reality is that there’s definitely something else going on. A lot of guys come back and do more workshops with me because they’ve found that these sessions help them to overcome fear, to overcome trauma patterns, or just give them some clarity.
Maybe that’s not the case for every spiritual jack-off session out there, but I’m confident that taking part in my workshops involves something more powerful than just a regular jack-off.
If someone was interested in exploring this kind of thing, but wasn’t quite sure where to start, what would you advise as a good entry point?
It depends what you’re looking for. If you’re not really sure whether you want to take your clothes off or to explore self-touch, have a look at the videos on my website. There’s some demonstrations there that people can just watch.
Once you’re ready to engage with a session – ready to engage with your body, and ready to get naked – you can download one of my free introductory sessions. That gives you something you can do by yourself, at home.
The next step would be to book a workshop – either online or face-to-face. I’m also creating some on-demand video sessions, so that’s another option.
What do you hope that men feel when they’re taking part in one of your workshops?
I hope that they realise that they’re more than they thought. We are unlimited beings of limitless potential – when we live from a place of limitless potential, everything is different.
Given where we’re at right now, people are wanting to feel more connected to a higher purpose – people are wanting to feel more.
A lot of the feedback that I’m getting is about the incredible pleasure that guys are achieving through the sessions – they feel like they’re having a full-body orgasm. I want people to realise how amazing their bodies are.