One of the reasons that Gaydar is one of the world’s most-popular gay dating apps is their Adult Photos feature.

This feature means that you can add Adult Photos to your Gaydar profile, letting the guys that you’re chatting with see every inch of what you’ve got in store for them.

Analysis shows that the most popular profiles on Gaydar are those that include Adult Photos.

When you’re browsing through the profiles of guys that you might want to connect with, the ones that are showing the eggplant emoji are the ones that have explicit photos for you to view.

How do I get the eggplant emoji on my Gaydar profile?

It’s super-easy.

Take some sexy photos and upload them to your Public photos on your Gaydar profile. They’ll automatically be recognised as being explicit photos and the eggplant emoji will appear on your profile.

You can’t use an explicit photo as your Main image – because of app store regulations, this needs to be a non-sexual photo of you.

Get to it! We want more eggplant emojis on Gaydar profiles! Let’s see those photos!

How to take a quality naked selfie

Background

Think about where you’re going to take your photos. Bathrooms are often a go-to location because of the mirrors, but no one wants to see you trying to look sexy next to your toilet.

Shortlist a couple of location options and take a few test-shots to see which comes up best. A blank wall can work well – particularly if it’s got a bold colour that you can contrast against. In your bed is also possible – surrounded by crisp white sheets and pillows. Another good option is gazing out your window, sipping a coffee and wearing nothing but a wistful smile.

Lighting

While you’re testing out locations for your sexy selfies photo shoot, also assess the lighting. Bad lighting can kill a great photo, great lighting can save an ordinary photo.

You probably don’t have access to a professional lighting set, but think creatively about the options that you do have. You’ve got your lamps, you’ve got your overhead lighting, and there’s also reflective surfaces such as mirrors. Natural lighting can deliver really good results, but it’s harder to control.

Take some test shots. Assess the results. Find the best lighting you’ve got and combine it with the best location you’ve got.

Logistics

Are you taking these photos yourself, or have you got a flat-mate on standby who’s willing to work the camera? Is this a selfie on your phone? Have you got a selfie stick that will give you different angles?

Think through the practicalities of getting the shots that you’re looking for.

Preparation

You want to be looking your best for these photos. This is how you’re going to present yourself to the world as being worth making the effort to meet up with for some action.

When you’re getting ready for your photo-shoot, have a shower. Think about shaving – which bits are you shaving and which bits are you leaving a bit scruffy? What are you doing with your hair? Lotion up. You need to moisturise everything and everywhere.

How much should I show?

This is totally up to you. If you’re putting some effort into creating some quality adult photos, you may as well take as many as you can and give yourself as many options as possible. Just because you’ve got a great photo of yourself mastering a massive dildo doesn’t mean that you have to show it to anyone, but it’s nice to have the option.

When you’re chatting to guys on dating apps, they’re going to want you to send them photos of yourself naked – they’re going to want to see your ass, they’re going to want to see your dick, they’re going to want to see you hard.

It’s up to you what photos you upload to your profile and what photos you send to whoever you’re chatting to. Take all the photos you can and decide later which ones project what you’re offering and what you’re looking for.

Should I cheat?

There’s lots of apps out there that will help you manipulate your photos to maximise your appeal. There’s no harm in tweaking the filter to make you look a bit more gorgeous, but it’s important that your photo is still an accurate representation of you.

Put your grooming and beauty skills into action – a bit of concealer to hide dark circles is fair enough. Painting on abs that aren’t really there is probably taking things too far.

Changing the shape of your body or adding a few inches to your dick all kind of defeats the purpose. Remember – the photo is just a step in the journey to getting to the real thing. Ultimately, you’re hoping that you’re going to end up naked with the guy that you’re chatting to – you don’t want him to be disappointed.

Should you be sharing sexy selfies?

Should you be sending naked and sexy photos of yourself to people that you’re chatting with online? Probably not. There’s all kinds of risks involved – you don’t necessarily know if you can trust the person that you’re sending them to, there’s no telling where those photos are going to end up, and once they’re out there they have the potential to do some long-lasting damage to your reputation.

But the reality is that sending naked photos and sexy selfies has become a fundamental part of our dating rituals – particularly for queer guys.

It’s easy to tell yourself that you won’t be sending explicit photos to anyone, but if you’re looking for some fun, and the guy that you’re into wants to see a bit more before committing to a hook-up, odds are that you’re going to put the technology to work and show him the goods.

How can you protect yourself from having your sexy selfies going public?

Sending naked or sexy photos of yourself to anyone comes with some risks. Even if you’re using a secure platform, or an app that you trust, there’s lots of ways in which your photo could be copied, saved, and distributed across the internet.

If you’re sending out photos, you pretty much have to accept that people are going to see you naked.

Rather than getting too worked up about it, you can just make peace with the fact that it’s going to happen. Sure, it might be a bit embarrassing or awkward, but it’s your body. Whatever shape your body is, there’s nothing to be ashamed of. We’ve all got genitals. Laugh it off, people will soon forget about it.

One way to protect yourself a little in this situation is to assume that every photo you send could end up somehow going public. Don’t send photos of yourself doing something illegal. Don’t send photos that would cause you problems in your career.

Before you hit send on that sexy selfie – take a second look at it and make sure that you’re okay with seeing it on a Google Image Search some day.

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