Who’s your Daddy?
Whatever age you are, a bit of intergenerational role-play can definitely be a bit of fun – this is a fantasy role-play that’s universally referred to as Daddy/Son.
If you look at the data for any gay porn platform, or read a bit of gay erotic fiction, or just spend a bit of time immersed in gay Twitter, you’ll appreciate that Daddy/Son scenarios are often at the top of the list of what fuels our fap fantasies.
But what draws a lot of gay men to explore a Daddy/Son role play in their relationships and their hook-ups? What is it about inter-generational encounters that excites us and turns us on?
“Just because the body ages, that doesn’t mean that we stop desiring healthy bodies…” explains sexologist Justin David Duwe. “This is programmed into our DNA. Humans are attracted to healthy bodies. Younger bodies tend to be healthier than older ones, so that’s probably one reason for why older men are attracted to younger men. In terms of younger men, they tend to look at older men as a replacement father figure, or see them as having a characteristic that they don’t possess.”
What’s the appeal of dating younger guys?
There’s lots of reasons why intergenerational connections work. Young guys have lots of energy and enthusiasm – they’re pretty much horny all the time.
Hooking up with a university undergrad is also a good opportunity to explore your teacher/student role-play fantasies. Does he need to be kept back for detention? Perhaps he needs to be disciplined? Maybe you need to put him over your knee and see how he likes being spanked?
Another of our favourite role-plays is to be the Coach who takes charge of an eager but inexperienced player. Maybe your student is on the wrestling team, or the swim team – either way, it’s going to be a sweaty workout before you both get to hit the showers.
Are younger guys interested in connecting with guys who are a bit older?
You can’t really assume what a guy is going to be into. Sure, a young undergrad might be only interested in hooking-up with other students, or water polo players, or guys who can speak three languages. But we’ve all got Daddy issues in some form or another, and it’s pretty clear that there’s plenty of young guys who are totally into hooking up with someone a few years older or from a completely different generation.
It doesn’t have to be a whole Daddy/Son role-play, but young guys are often looking for someone with a bit of experience, someone who can show them the ropes, and someone who could occasionally pay for dinner.
Two dads are better than one?
One fantasy that seems fairly common, is when a gay couple - who might be in their mid-40s or older – decide to bring a younger boy into their relationship to spice things up a bit.
I asked sexologist Justin David Duwe why that scenario might be appealing to the couple.
“Because they’re probably very bored with one another and are hoping that bringing in a distraction will fix their issues with desire and sexual functioning…” explains Duwe. “Most gay men have tremendous difficulty with conflict resolution, or the creation of emotional connections – which we generally refer to as intimacy.”
“In terms of why that scenario might be appealing to the boy involved…” continues Duwe. “He may feel special, or feel as if the arrangement offers him the opportunity for financial gain or social status. He may think that it’s possible that one of the couple will have a relationship with him. It may be just plain sexual attraction and nothing more.”
We asked our readers to share some of their real-life experiences with Daddy/Son role-play:
- “I’ve always been attracted to older guys. They’re more mature - in and out of bed. The biggest age-gap relationship I’ve had was 22 years – he was 22 years older than me.”
- “When I first moved to San Francisco, in my early 20s, I needed someone to show me the ropes. I got involved with two leather daddies – big mistake, that wasn’t for me - I wasn’t into obeying rules. I eventually found an older guy who showed me the ropes and I didn’t have cater to his ego.”
- “We met on a dating app. I’d specified the age group range of 28 to 35. For me, it was about having sex with a ‘man’ – muscle, chest hair – at that time I’d never found boys my age attractive. He messaged me and had said on his profile that he was 38. We met and really got on. We ended up seeing each other every day for a week, then he told me he was actually 44 – by that time it didn’t really matter as the sexual attraction was there, and he looked a lot younger than he was. I wasn’t really conscious of the age difference at all, I wasn’t really thinking about having a long-term relationship, it just happened.”
- “I’m generally more attracted to guys who are the same age or older than me, rather than guys who are younger. The oldest guy I ever dated was in his early 50s when I was 33, but everyone else has been within around 5–10 years of my own age.”
- “My husband is 16 years younger than I am - he keeps my perspective on life fresh, and he doesn’t use age as an excuse not to try something new.”
- “I’ve always found older men attractive. Before my husband, when I was in my early-20s I dated men who were in their mid-30s, I found that age group to be my sexual ideal of a masculine man.”
- “My husband’s father was emotionally absent, so I try and provide that emotional support that he didn’t get and always make him feel loved.”
- “We’ve been together for sixteen years and married for six years. I was 23 when we first met, and he was 44.”
- “I started dating younger guys when I turned 35 - I started to grasp my own mortality.”
- “I think my husband likes younger guys because at the time he grew up, it wasn’t really possible to have a relationship with another guy. Knowing he was gay from a young age, he never felt like he got to explore that side sexually - so his sexual age range in guys didn’t mature at the same rate he did.”
Where can I find Daddy/Son role-play porn fantasies?
It does what it says on the tin, delivering incest-themed fantasies day in and day out.
Mormon men who take a very hands-on approach to instructing the younger members of their congregation.
Cole and Hunter are masters at creating amateur-style porn where they work over young horny boys.
This ticks a lot of boxes.
Bringing high-quality production values to your incest fantasies.
Leaning into the fantasy of a perv uncle leading his nephew astray.
Who are the sexiest Daddies?
If you had to choose your favourite muscle-daddy gay porn stars – who would you pick? Here are some of our favourites.
He’s the man behind the Timtales studio, but our favourite scenes are always the ones where he steps in front of the camera and puts his body to work. He should be the ambassador for gingers around the world.
He’s thick in all the right places. We’d like to wrestle Nick Capra – an oil match, obviously.
Rocco is the ultimate muscle-daddy – the body, the voice, the attitude.
There’s something totally irresistible about Cutler X . He’s got that kind of energy that makes you feel relaxed and up for anything, but there’s an edge, an attitude that lets you know that if he could easily break you – if he wanted to.
Brooding, strong, powerful – this is a guy who’s going to take control. Yes, Daddy!
The body. The attitude. Lance Charge is ticking all of the boxes of our Daddy/Son role-play fantasy.
Embracing the Daddy identity
We caught up with our reader Rod H to talk about how he’s embracing his sexual identity as a Daddy.
What was your first experience of an inter-generational relationship?
As a six year old with an uncle — it wasn’t my idea. A doctor, a teacher, and a guy from church followed over the years.
By the time testosterone arrived at 12 or 13, I was years in front of my own age group, who were mostly still floundering and scared but keen.
I used my advantage to seduce maybe half of my form over three years. I enjoyed being a guy’s first encounter. It was an all-boy boarding school — a veritable smorgasbord.
I was very sexually active at an early age. Boys always spread around the information that I was gay, so I didn’t have to always explain myself. I wasn’t always popular with parents — some were suspicious about the extra curricular activities their son was involved in. But I was sharp in tongue — part of a necessary arsenal to protect myself from criticism.
My parents walked in on me having sex with two boys. My mother said it was disgusting, as I was exploring their holes with my tongue. I replied it wasn’t disgusting from my angle. There’s a temporary loss of erection when a parent disturbs you, but only temporary.
You describe yourself as having been a ‘disposable teen’ — what do you mean by that?
In the porn industry, we were always a ‘use-by’ commodity. People want new faces all the time — that’s the nature of porn. To last 15 years was extraordinary, but you had to do whatever they asked.
Porn seemed a great industry to work in from 16 years of age. I truly believed that was what destiny had in store for me. It certainly seemed that way. I always joked that I had an invisible tattoo on my forehead saying — “Come fuck me” — as it just kept happening.
There was another boy at school that I was in the same class as, he asked me to join him in selling ourselves in the saunas and bathhouses that were plentiful in pre-AIDS days. We always wore our school uniform, as that drove the old men crazy. They would literally throw money at us when we walked in. It was wonderful.
I’d always been aware that I could get an erection from anything. I wondered whether money would. It sure did. My mother wondered why I always had huge amounts of money, so I told her what I was doing. She advised me that to sell myself meant that I had sold the right to choice. I never thought I had the right of choice. I thought I was meant to be a commodity, so I accepted fucking of any sort. I was definitely enjoying it.
At that age, I never made it to double figures in one day — in terms of the number of fucks I had — but I often got to nine. I’d be so sore by then, my balls felt like they’d explode. But I’d been well-trained. All it took was someone, anyone, to rim my ass and I’d have another load ready. A trick that still works.
Porn was a natural progression. I’d been photographed, so to make movies seemed the next thing. I went to San Francisco at 17, and started work almost immediately. I loved porn because the guys were young, buff, and great looking. But they were often rough — particularly in America — feeling that they had to fuck me to oblivion to impress. I was so turned on by it all, that it didn’t really matter. I was happy to fuck the crew as well.
I then went to Europe. I particularly loved Czech men, and Ukrainians — still the hottest men on the planet, in my view — although any good-looker has me hard and ready. European film makers were much more into fantasy — uniforms and the like — and real love making scenes with narrative, beyond just being fucked. I loved it so much, I stayed for years.
I didn’t make films all the time. But often enough to live comfortably. Germans drove me wild too, and they were great scene-partners — sexually insatiable, like me.
I’m still friends with a few guys from that period of my life. We shared something unique. We’re friends, and all happily ex-sluts.
When you were younger, what was it about older guys that you found attractive?
At six, I hated it. I couldn’t even find the words to say what had happened to me. I just stood in the lounge room, dumbfounded. I made a vow then that I’d never take a child, and I never have. Although the church uses this as an excuse to keep the cycle going, I chose not to.
But, as I got into late teens and twenties, I found that older men knew exactly what to do to make me feel great. Over and over and over.
I found attractive older men to be the hottest guys I could be with — they knew exactly what to do and say to have me constantly hard. Nothing beats experience and the loss of any hangups, that happens with age. They taught me all the tricks, all the positions, and things like loving swallowing cum and rimming butt.
Did you ever felt taken advantage of as a result of the inter-generational power dynamic?
As a six year old through till about 14, absolutely. It’s not much else in reality. An abuse of trust and power.
But something kicks in with the onset of testosterone. I found that by the age of 14, I knew if someone was checking me out. So, I played up to it.
There was one teacher at school who obviously had the hots for me. But he had a keen sense of keeping his career. So, I would make sure that he always got to see me with an erection in my uniform, and that he checked my ass out in uniform and sports shorts. I kept sleazing up to him, saying that I really wanted to feel him inside me. To watch him disappear in me. I’d drop books or anything in front of him, and slowly pick them up, wiggling my ass and asking him to fuck me — “C’mon Sir, you know you want it…” I would say every day. He gave in one day when I was just about 15. I asked him to take me home to his place so that we could fuck. He agreed. When we got there, I let him know I was serious by kissing him and rubbing his erection through his suit trousers. I begged him to fuck me outside on the balcony. Told him how hot it would be. He was extremely reluctant, but finally agreed. I had arranged with about 15 boys from school to hide in the bushes opposite his balcony. They were the witnesses. One giggled out loud as we were into it. The teacher heard. He knew his time was up.
Sadly, he was probably the nicest adult that I’d had sex with to that time in my life. He didn’t actually abuse me, I abused him. He was devastated, and asked why I’d done this to him. I just shrugged my shoulders and explained it was payback-for-adults day. As a man, now much older than he was, I truly regret this. However, at the time, I wanted vengeance, and I got it. We reported him. He committed suicide within days. I wonder whether karma has paid me back yet. I would love it to have been different for him. He was pretty well innocent. The darkness had already dictated to me. I really wanted to get my uncle and the family doctor, but didn’t. Life has casualties.
As you got older, when did you start to realise that younger guys were seeing you as a Daddy figure?
It only really became a conscious thing over the past seven to ten years. Until then, sex was sex. If the person was ten years younger, it wasn’t such a big deal — they were still well and truly knowing adults.
At first, when I realised that much younger guys were actively hitting on me, I felt old. I started thinking I was old enough to be their dads, and for the lower 20s bracket, just about their grandfather. Intellectually, that’s phenomenal. Physically, it’s awesome.
Like the adult partners I’d had when I was growing up, I know what they’ll respond to sexually, how to talk filthy dirty to them, and keep building their tension. I’m not scared by sex. Youth responds to that big time. I love to hear guys whimper for sex. So fucking hot.
Do you now find younger guys attractive?
I still find anyone good looking and in great shape attractive sexually. But, I definitely find younger men absolutely a total turn-on. I love the firmness of their bodies. I love their keenness to experiment. I love the insatiable nature of finding great mind-blowing sex, rather than just good, satisfying sex.
I find having the power-dynamic weighted in my favour a turn on. I like being the best fuck that they’ve ever had. I like teaching what I was taught. I love watching their eyes roll in ecstasy. I particularly love an erection that never subsides in my company.
But, I’m also aware that it’s not often more than just sex. It’s not going to be a long-term relationship. But, it can be great for years. It’s hard for anyone to move on from a brilliant sex partner. I was the same.
Is Daddy/Son porn something that fuels your fantasies?
I hadn’t watched any daddy/son porn until I found myself well and truly involved. Although when I was young, making daddy/son films was always hot.
One variation of the Daddy fantasy is the potential for sexual tension between a teacher and his student.
Did you ever try and seduce your teacher?
Did you ever want to take your teacher-student fantasies to the next level? How far would you go to get top grades?
Another intergenerational fantasy role-play that pushes our buttons is the Bad Uncle getting it on with his nephew.
There’s always that one hot uncle who will lead you astray, take you out partying, and push you to try new things. Or maybe it’s the slutty nephew, determined to do whatever it takes to seduce his beefy uncle.
Intergenerational fantasies play into that Dad/Son fantasy – it’s a bit of a power-play, toying with taboos.
There’s a whole studio line of porn dedicated to the Bad Uncle fantasy – the studio is called Say Uncle. It frequently involves uncles getting together and swapping their boys for a bit of fun.
Erotic illustrations and comics are also a good way to explore an intergenerational fantasy.
Are you into a bit of intergenerational role-play?
Are you looking for a Daddy in your life? Are you interested in taking charge of a younger guy?
Perhaps, surprisingly, intergenerational role-play is one of the most popular gay sexual fantasies out there.
We’ve been doing some research, and the results of our survey are in — check how you measure up.
We surveyed 120 gay men and asked them some personal questions about their sexual fantasies.
Here’s what we found out.
Is a Daddy/Son role-play something that fuels your fantasies?
- Yes: 74%
- No: 18%
- Unsure: 8%
“Age differences have always intrigued me. In my 20s, I much preferred men who were 10 or 20 years older than me. Since my 40s, I’ve preferred men in their 20s, though I can be attracted to men closer to my own age, too.” — anonymous survey respondent
“It’s hot. There’s something about the bond between Dad and son that many of us didn’t have.” — anonymous survey respondent
“When I was in my teens, I used to like older guys. Now I’m older, and teenagers calling me Daddy turns me on.” — anonymous survey respondent
“I enjoy fantasising about forbidden situations.” — anonymous survey respondent
“I’m young, and like the idea of an older man fucking me. Also, I like to see an older guy teaching a younger guy what to do.” — anonymous survey respondent
“When I was a teen, I loved it when older men took me in hand to train me up in the joys of sex. Now, as an older man, I enjoy training up young men.” — anonymous survey respondent
Do you ever identify as a Daddy in your sexual encounters?
- Yes: 45%
- No — I’m too young: 19%
- No — It’s not an identity that I connect with: 30%
- Unsure: 6%
Do you ever identify as a Son in your sexual encounters?
- Yes: 48%
- No — I’m too old: 26%
- No — It’s not an identity that I connect with: 22%
- Unsure: 4%
Why do you think a Daddy/Son role-play appeals to you?
- It doesn’t appeal to me: 15%
- I had a good relationship with my father: 2%
- I had a difficult relationship with my father: 9%
- I enjoy the inter-generational power dynamic: 36%
- I don’t know, it just turns me on: 19%
- Other: 19%. Responses marked as Other could generally be categorised as either “It just turns me on” or “power dynamic.”
What does survey this tell us?
- The Daddy/Son role-play fantasy is a fairly common fantasy for gay men.
- There is a proportion of gay men that don’t in any way identify with the Daddy/Son role-play fantasy.
- Gay men often adapt the fantasy as they age — you may have identified as a ‘son’ when younger, but you can embrace the role of ‘daddy’ as you get older.
- The inter-generational power dynamic is the key driver of this fantasy for most gay men.