Are you an exhibitionist?
Ever wanted to explore your exhibitionist fantasies?
Some guys get turned on by putting on a show. There’s something about being naked in public, getting it on in places where you probably shouldn’t. The thrill of potentially getting caught, of being exposed, or that other guys might want to join in.
Whether it’s just your fantasy or it’s the reality of how you have fun, exhibitionism is something that appeals to a lot of horned-up men.
What’s the turn-on about exhibitionism?
We talked to a few porn stars to find out whether exhibitionism was a turn on for them.
Taking a risk
It’s a good idea to check what the local laws are before you head out to have some fun. Some places will have quite strict public decency rules, while others are a bit more relaxed about that kind of thing, as long as you’re not offending or upsetting anyone else.
“I haven’t been caught while I was wanking yet, but the risk of getting caught totally adds to the excitement…” says Yoshi Kawasaki. “I’m hoping that one day I’ll find some guys who want to join me when I’m jerking off.”
Putting on a show
For many guys, exhibitionism is all about having an audience – being able to perform in front of an appreciative crowd, whether that’s on a stage in a club or at the local cruising ground.
“I love to have sex in public, with people around watching me - it makes me so horny!” confirms Dani Robles.
“My dick gets hard when people are watching me mess around… confirms George Mason of Hung Young Brit. “One-on-one, behind closed doors stuff isn’t so appealing to me.”
“I am 100 percent an exhibitionist…” confirms Skyy Knox. “I was born to be on stage or in front of a camera - it’s where I can open up, express myself, and really be free. I enjoy sex in every way you can imagine. Sex is more than just fucking for me - it’s pure passion and art mixed together. Whether I’m filming a scene, or doing a live sex show, I’m giving my whole body and energy so that everyone can enjoy what I do.”
Fuelling the fantasy
Another thing that might get you going is the sexual connection that you’re having with the guys who are watching you.
“I love it when people watch me…” says Kan Rojas. “It excites me a lot to know that people feel pleasure when they’re watching me, that they’re fantasising about doing things with me.”
“There’s this inherent camaraderie in that non-verbal exchange of a red-light bar that really gets me going …” says Cody Winter. “All the more-so when it’s you and your partner getting a group worked up.”
A bit of BDSM?
“What excites me the most in exhibitionism is humiliation…” explains Yoshi Kawasaki. “The sense of someone else watching me getting nasty and sleazy or getting used is a big part of the turn-on. That’s why I love doing porn, because I know that thousands of people will be watching me going fully dirty.”
Connecting with nature
It’s possible that your love of exhibitionism is fuelled by the naturist appeal of getting naked in the great outdoors.
“I love being observed, and I love to know that people appreciate my hard work and performance…” says Gabriel Phoenix. “At the same time, I find being naked so liberating – I’m a free-spirited lad, I’m naked 90 percent of the time, regardless of whether there’s an audience. I particularly like getting naked outdoors in nature - I take any opportunity I can to shed my clothing and reconnect.”
Are all porn stars exhibitionists?
We caught up with some of our favourite adult entertainers and asked how they got their start in the industry and whether exhibitionism played a part in their jouney.
“I’ve always been a big porn guy – I started looking at Google Images when I was in 7th and 8th grade. By high school, I started exploring videos. As I got older, I’ve always thought that it would be cool to try porn out.”
“It was actually my brother, Justin, who wanted to do it for real. He was talking to a few guys online.”
“When we were moving to Portland, in Oregon, I met a guy who occasionally films for Treasure Island Media and he encouraged us both to apply. Once people found out we were twins, we decided to do it together. After that, it kind of took off.”
“I’m happy I get to experience this with my twin brother – it makes things a little more comfortable, because we’re not alone. It’s been fun and exciting so far.”
“In general, it was easier than I’d anticipated. You’re never asked to do anything that you’re not willing to do, and if you need to take a break then no one is going to say no. Obviously, we all want to film a great scene as efficiently as possible, but if you need a break then all you need to do is say so. If something doesn’t feel right or hurts, you stop, regroup, change position if necessary, and continue filming until it looks and feels right.”
“Charged Media was the first studio to give me a chance – that’s who gave me my break. I wanted to work with them. I pursued them because that’s what all of my escorting clients were watching – they weren’t just watching clips on PornHub or something, they were all fully paid-up subscribers. I was drawn to the storytelling aspect of their productions, the characters – as an actor, that really appealed to me.”
“When I tell people about what I do, I can feel them looking at me as if I’ve obviously made some bad choices. But this is exactly what I want to be doing. I do this because I love it. I don’t have addiction issues. No one is taking advantage of me. This is the life I want.”
Is wearing a kilt a turn-on for exhibitionists?
“I started wearing them several years ago, more out of interest than anything else – I’m not Scottish, I have Irish heritage…” explains our Twitter-buddy Sean, explaining how he developed his passion for kilts. “The kilt really appeals to me as an item of clothing on many levels — it’s far more comfortable to wear than trousers, and also looks a hell of a lot smarter too. I always wear the sporran, kilt hose, and flashes with it — it’s the complete look.”
“The freedom of it is wonderful, and there’s a real buzz about wearing a kilt — it gives me a lot of confidence, it’s a bit like power-dressing. I get a lot of positive comments and compliments, from both men and women.”
“Wearing a kilt feels very liberating. It’s also the one item of clothing you can wear where it’s almost expected that you’re going to ‘free’ underneath — what’s not to like about that?”
Richard Crowe – a case study in exhibitionism
We caught up with Richard Crowe for the story behind his latest photo-shoot.
How did this photo-shoot come about?
I saw a friend of mine featured on a tumblr site called Bear Hotel. It struck me as a great idea. Different models, photographed in various stages of undress, in hotel rooms, each given their own ‘room number’ on the site.
I really liked the concept, and the photographs themselves were amazing. Honest and open. It was clear that the photographer, Richard Cameron, had a real rapport with his models. Sometimes that doesn’t happen and, as a model, you don’t quite relax. After all, you’re there with all your clothes off, he’s hiding behind a pair of trousers and a camera. It’s not always easy to just lie there and look pretty, or sexy, or just at ease with your own body.
I contacted Richard by email to volunteer my services which, luckily, were accepted
What contact or discussions did you have with the photographer ahead of the photo-shoot?
The main discussion was about when and where the photoshoot would happen. Diaries being what they are, it’s often difficult to coordinate these things quickly.
Richard was familiar with some of my work, so questions about what I was prepared to do and how far I wanted to undress in front of the camera, were a bit redundant. I’m a full-frontal kind of guy and always have been.
The other key thing to establish — the contract between us if you like — was how far the resulting photographs would be distributed and related privacy issues — name, contact details and so on. I’m pretty easy when it comes to distribution — far and wide is my motto!
Did it matter to you where the photographs would be available?
I knew the photographs were for publication in Bear Hotel on two platforms, tumblr and Instagram. I also understood that anyone could download the photographs from there and use them for their own purposes or post them to other groups. All fine by me. I’m an exhibitionist.
How did you feel during the shoot itself?
It’s interesting how my response to being photographed nude has changed over the years. It’s been quite subtle in many ways.
I used to go into a shoot, take off my clothes and, if I didn’t have an erection as my pants were coming off, I’d have one pretty soon afterwards. There was a direct association between being naked, being seen naked, and being sexually aroused. Even as recently as five years ago, there weren’t many photo-shoots that didn’t end without me masturbating — in full view and with the camera still clicking.
It’s very rare now that I get an erection from just being seen naked. If a photographer wants me to be aroused, that’s not a problem. But the stimulus of a hand or some visuals would now be required. Similarly, I’m not averse to masturbating for the camera — I still enjoy it.
But there is something far more relaxed and considered about being naked in a photo-shoot as I get older. Maybe that comes from my awareness that I’m not as sexually attractive as I was in my youth, that men look at my body differently. That I’m appreciated as much for simply daring to be naked as for my cock alone. No false modesty intended, comments on my photos from both younger guys seeking ‘daddies’ and older guys wanting ‘love’, confirm to me that I still have something in the sex appeal department.
But sex is not the obsession it was. Nudity for me, and being seen in the nude, is as much about moral freedoms and an insistence that bodies, whatever their age or gender, are beautiful, as it is about sex.
I suppose there’s also something about the habitual here. I’m used to being naked in front of a camera. I relax very easily, especially with a photographer like Richard, who is laid back and natural. When the photographer himself is nervous and aroused by the situation, it’s very difficult, as a model, to relax. Similarly, if the photographer is intense and broody or has little experience with the camera. You can never quite be sure who it is you’re meeting or what their motive is.
In this instance, it was the element of surprise that aroused me and appealed directly to my exhibitionist self. The hotel room we were using for the photo-shoot overlooked Vauxhall Station and the main line into Waterloo. Trains stopped directly outside our window on a regular basis. We could see the people inside the railway carriages and, clearly, they could see us. Heads turned, fingers pointed, there were even a few smiles. If we closed the curtains, we lost the light. A good photographer will always prefer natural over flash. So, what were we to do? I didn’t mind. I enjoyed the situation. Look all you want — or, if it offends you, look away.
What is it about being an exhibitionist that gives you a sexual thrill?
It’s something to do with the contravention of ideas of public morality, privacy and freedom. The idea that hundreds of years ago some dried-up cleric interpreted the beautiful act of sex as something dirty to be refrained from wherever possible, to be punished for, is beyond belief. And yet that view is still prevalent in our attitudes to nudity today.
When I take off my clothes and show my naked body to the camera, when the resulting photographs are then posted online, copied and shared to other people and other sites, I am, therefore, committing an act of defiance. By rough calculation, images of my naked body have been seen by at least six million people, men and women. The fact I attach my name to that image, I believe, sends a message, loud and clear, to the world.
I do get off from being seen naked. There is a strong sexual motive inherent in my exhibitionism. I don’t find that contradictory, nor do I find it hypocritical. It’s sexually liberating to make one’s private parts public, to accept that sex, erections, masturbation are beautiful, natural, God-given gifts to be enjoyed to the full. I love being watched masturbating and being seen naked. For most of my life, I’ve been as repressed and persecuted by that dried-up old cleric as everyone else.
What do you hope that other guys feel when looking at these photos?
Of course, I hope guys find my body attractive. I hope some look at me and feel aroused, are even moved to masturbate looking at me. I love it when guys write to me and tell me that’s what they’ve done. Some even print off a photo of me naked, masturbate over it and send me a photograph of the result. That may seem weird to some, but it’s a huge compliment to me and invariably gets me hard.
I get particular pleasure knowing some young guy has seen me naked and wants me to fuck him or visa versa. I really like the daddy thing, very sexy.
But I also hope some guys look at me and appreciate, even respect, what I’m doing on another level — that I look good, that I have balls, that I’m brave for doing what I do. Again, guys do write to me and say as much. They might add ‘I wish I was brave enough to do the same’. I always reply, to every comment, even the bad ones.
I get called ‘a queer’ and ‘a cunt’ and ‘fatty’ and ‘pervert’. I get derisive remarks about my belly, my arse, my face, my penis. I’ve been threatened with violence, with blackmail, and even with photographs sent to my local paper.
But on the whole, guys are very positive about what I do. I have a lot of fans and a lot of respect in the exhibitionist community. So long as that situation remains, the trolls can, frankly, go fuck themselves. I’m very happy just as I am.