How should I describe my sexuality?
If you think that you’re probably not “straight” then you’re going to need to find a way to describe your sexuality.
While we tend to talk about the LGBTQ community – and we can allocate words that match to each of those letters – when it comes to describing your sexuality, you’re not just limited to those five words.
Obviously, things can change and evolve – you might find that what feels right just now may not feel so appropriate as circumstances change.
We’re here to share with you some of the options you’ve got when it comes to talking about what you’re into – it’s a bit of an A-Z guide to being LGBTQ.
If you describe yourself as Asexual, you’re indicating that you don’t experience sexual attraction to other people – whatever their gender. You can be Asexual and still feel emotions and fall in love with people, but you just don’t want to have sex with them.
If you describe yourself as Bicurious, you’re indicating that you are questioning whether or not you’re straight or heterosexual, and open to exploring sexual encounters with people of the same gender as you.
If you describe yourself as Bisexual, you’re indicating that you’re into having sex with multiple genders – you’re into both men and women.
If you describe yourself as Gay, you’re indicating that you’re a guy who’s into other guys.
If you describe yourself as Heterosexual, you’re indicating that you’re into having sex with people of a different gender to yourself. For example, if you’re a hetero guy then you’re into girls, and if you’re a hetero girl then you’re into guys.
This is generally referred to as being Straight. If you’re a Straight guy or girl then you’re describing yourself as Heterosexual.
If you describe yourself as Lesbian, you’re indicating that you’re a woman who’s into other women.
If you describe yourself as Pansexual, you’re indicating that you experience sexual connections with people regardless of their gender. Polysexual is another word that you could use for this.
If you describe yourself as Queer, you’re indicating that you’re not Heterosexual – you’re not Straight.
Queer used to be quite an offensive insult that was hurled at anyone who was a bit different, but we’ve pretty much reclaimed it and now wear the term Queer as a badge of honour.
Queer is a nice broad term that could mean anything that you want it to, so it’s a good one if you don’t want to stick a specific label on your sexuality, or if you’re still figuring things out and are unsure how to describe yourself.