How to tackle loneliness
This time of year can be a really social few months. People are going to parties, everyone is talking about their plans for Christmas and New Year’s, and it’s a time where there’s generally a bit of pressure to have some exciting plans for how you’re spending your nights.
However, for some of us, this time of year can leave us feeling quite isolated or lonely.
If your Instagram is filled with images of people out and enjoying themselves and apparently living their best lives, it’s easy to make negative comparisons to yourself if you’re not feeling at the top of your game.
Here’s some tips to try and help keep everything in perspective.
You don’t have to go out
There’s no rule that says that your life will be ruined if you’re not out living it large. If you’re not feeling like being social, it’s okay just to have a quiet night in. But staying in doesn’t have to miserable, and you don’t have to do it alone. Cook some great food, have a movie marathon, start a new project that you can really get your teeth into, invite someone over, arrange a hook-up. Whatever floats your boat.
Don’t beat yourself up about being by yourself
At different points of our lives, there’s a number of reasons why you might find that you’re by yourself – not surrounded by family or a big group of friends. It’s no big deal. Even if it leaves you feeling a bit flat or deflated, recognise and acknowledge those feelings. You might conclude to yourself that you don’t want to be experiencing those same emotions for too much longer – it might push you to make some changes in your life.
This time of year is generally seen as a season of indulgence and excess, but that can go badly wrong if you’re by yourself and not in the best head-space. If you feel yourself heading to a bit of a low-point, drugs or alcohol aren’t going to make you feel better – they’ll only accelerate you spiralling out of control. Be proactive – remove the temptations and activate your support networks to help get you back on track.
People aren’t mind readers
If you haven’t been invited to an amazing party, it’s up to you to do something about that. Don’t sit at home waiting for the phone to ring. People might just be assuming that you’re all sorted. Reach out to friends and family. Check-in and see what everyone is up to. If you want to be part of a big night out, get on the front foot and connect with the people that you know.