How to tackle loneliness
New Year’s Eve celebrations can be a really social time. People are going to parties, there’s fireworks, and it’s a time where there’s generally a bit of pressure to have some exciting plans for how you’re going to spend the night.
However, for some of us, New Year’s Eve can be quite an isolated or lonely time.
If you’re Instagram is filled with images of people out and enjoying themselves and apparently living their best lives, it’s easy to make negative comparisons to yourself if you’re not feeling at the top of your game.
Here’s some tips to try and help keep everything in perspective.
You don’t have to go out on New Year’s Eve
There’s no rule that says that your life will be ruined if you’re not out living it large on New Year’s Eve. It’s just another night. Tomorrow is just another day. Life goes on. If you’re staying in on New Year’s Eve for whatever reason, work on making that as enjoyable as possible. Cook some great food, have a movie marathon, start a new project that you can really get your teeth into.
Don’t beat yourself up about being by yourself
At different points of our lives, there’s a number of reasons why you might find that you’re by yourself at New Year’s Eve. It’s no big deal. Even if it leaves you feeling a bit flat or deflated, recognise and acknowledge those feelings. You might conclude to yourself that you don’t want to be experiencing those same emotions next New Year’s Eve – so what changes are you going to make to ensure that next year will be different to this year?
New Year’s Eve is generally seen as a time of indulgence and excess, but that can go badly wrong if you’re by yourself and not in the best head-space. If you feel yourself heading to a bit of a low-point, drugs or alcohol aren’t going to make you feel better – they’ll only accelerate you spiralling out of control. Be proactive – remove the temptations and activate your support networks to help get you back on track.
People aren’t mind readers
If you haven’t been invited to an amazing New Year’s Eve party, it’s up to you to do something about that. Don’t sit at home waiting for the phone to ring. People might just be assuming that you’re all sorted. Reach out to friends and family. Check-in and see what everyone is up to. If you want to make a night of it, get on the front foot and connect with the people that you know.
You don’t have to be by yourself
Wherever you live, there’s bound to be some public New Year’s Eve celebration events that are open to everyone. Make the effort and go and take part. You don’t have to stay long, you don’t even have to stay until midnight, but it’s great to have an answer when someone asks you how you celebrated New Year – “I went to so-and-so and did such-and-such” – is a lot more interesting than – “I stayed home feeling sorry for myself.”