If you can remember what life was like before Covid-19 changed the goal-posts, you’ll recall that a night out in London would frequently include a sex party of some kind as one of the options.

Hard On and Jamie HP are the main organisers of gay sex parties in London, but there’s always been a number of other promoters and special events to spice things up.

Obviously, that all came to an end when Covid-19 hit and our nightlife went into lock-down.

Ever the innovators, we were all quick to put the technology to work and explore the world of online sex parties. Jamie HP has been pumping out a regular roster of online parties, and the team at Hard On have also dabbled in a bit of online action.

While most things in the UK are now re-opening in some shape or form, it seems that we’re still a fair way off before we can once again get naked in club and get off with guys we’ve never met before and are unlikely to ever see again.

Jamie HP are currently running three online parties each week – Friday night, Saturday night, and Sunday afternoon. You pretty much just set your camera up, get naked, and enjoy the thrill of having guys watching you while you wank as you get off watching other guys wank. It’s good fun.

Hard On have been looking at dates in places such as Gran Canaria and Antwerp, that’s proving a bit unpredictable as Covid-19 continues to require social distancing restrictions.

What happens at an online sex party?

Like most things in life, sex parties come in all shapes and sizes. They’re obviously not everyone’s cup of tea, but if you’re in the mood for a bit of fun then it’s something that might be worth exploring.

Online sex parties don’t have to be particularly organised – it could just be you and a couple of mates setting up a group video call, getting naked, and working each other over – visually and verbally. If you want something a bit more structured, a number of the regular nights have adapted their format and taken their sex-positive community online.

One of the challenges of running an online sex party is that – for a range of reasons – the main video conferencing platforms aren’t that keen for them to be used for sexual activity or content. It still happens, obviously, but you just have to be a bit discrete about it.

Before you get started, it’s a good idea to test out your camera and your position. Whether you’re using your phone or your laptop, you want to make sure that the technology is working and that you’ve got the angles and the lighting right so that you’re presenting yourself appropriately.

It depends on how many guys are taking part, and the platform that you’re using, but you’ll probably be able to scroll through to see who’s there, and there’s probably going to be a chat function so that you can post messages to the group or private messages to other guys.

If you want to retain a bit of anonymity, think about that in advance. The screen-name that you input during the log-in process is probably going to be displayed on screen – like a work-call. You might want to use a pseudonym. Also, think about whether you’re happy for your face to be seen on-screen.

The good thing about an online sex party is that it’s a different way to experience sexual self-pleasure. Masturbation is generally fairly solitary and functional. An online sex party encourages you to think about it in a different way – it’s a communal activity, you’re connecting with other guys, you’re taking your time.

Is an online sex party a risk to my reputation?

Like anything that you put on the internet, it’s possible that the intimate moments that you’re sharing with others could end up with a wider audience than you’d anticipated.

If you’ve got the kind of job where it could be a problem if there are naked photos or video of you out there, then you probably need to be a bit careful about how you approach an online sex party.

Obviously, you don’t want to film yourself doing anything illegal, but if you’re not cool with the wider world seeing you get a bit sexual, then you might want to explore a Mexican wrestling mask, a fetish hood, or a balaclava to retain a bit of mystery.

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