ManCrush: Damon Andros
If a bit of dominant-Daddy role-play pushes your buttons, then Damon Andros should be one of the guys added to your wank-bank.
We caught up with Damon to talk fantasies, fetish, and the future.
How did you get your start in the adult entertainment industry?
For me, porn has always been about exploring and demonstrating sexuality in a healthy, positive and shameless manner. For much of my life, there was always a sense of shame, stigma and fear surrounding sex. Part of the blame for that can be attributed to a religious and conservative upbringing, which made me feel dirty and ashamed for the thoughts I was having.
I came out in the late 90s in college. While much progress had been made in the fight against HIV by then, there was still an underlying and deeply rooted fear and ignorance surrounding sex among most gay men – myself included.
During my 20s, sex for me wasn’t really something to be savoured and honoured. It was usually quick and disconnected. In my late 20s, I entered into a 5-year relationship with a wonderful man. We had a great run and so many fun memories, but our sex life was lacking in many areas. After our breakup, I finally decided to put aside all the fears and hang-ups I had and dive head-first into sexual exploration. What better way to experience that than by getting into porn and sex work?
This was also around the time that I began PrEP, which by the mid-2010s had become much more mainstream and widely accepted as a way to prevent the spread of HIV. Sex finally became what I always knew it could be – a shameless safe space to explore kinks, intimacy, connection and pleasure in a non-judgmental way.
When did you start to embrace the persona of a Daddy?
As I began exploring more of my sexuality in my mid-30s, I noticed that I began taking on a more nurturing and dominant role in sexual experiences. It was an organic progression through role-play that eventually led to my full awareness as a Daddy.
That term – Daddy – gets thrown around quite a bit and has different meanings to different people. In general terms, I think a Daddy is someone who is more dominant and leads the role-play session or relationship with the more submissive partner who is often referred to as Boy.
In porn, Daddy is generally the alpha. Daddy is the nurturer. Daddy is the instigator, the leader, the teacher, the role model, the coach, the guidance counsellor, the police officer – he’s the person in a position of power or authority. In some cases, Daddy is the provider, the breadwinner, the sugar-Daddy.”
“The term means different things to different people based on the rules and structures two or more people put in place before entering into a role-play type of session or relationship. I don’t see Daddy as an age thing at all. I’ve met many men older than me who fit the role or persona of Boy much more than they do the role of Daddy. Age really has nothing to do with it.”
“I think for many gay men, we have fractured or less than ideal relationships with our fathers. Daddy/boy role-play helps fulfill the needs of both the Dominant and the submissive that are often left unfulfilled in real life. I focus on being the best Daddy I can be for my boys – providing them with emotional support and meaningful bonding experiences – something I feel like I never got from my own father.”
“My style of Daddy is one of being a nurturer. It’s not about showing dominance even if the sexual nature of our role-play sessions often head in that direction. It’s mostly about creating a safe space for the submissive where they can feel nurtured, encouraged, supported and inspired – before, during and after our sessions. In many ways, it extends into daily life as well. Being a nurturing Daddy for boys who need it makes me feel good and it makes the submissive feel good too. Hopefully all of our viewers at home love it as well.”
In your work as an escort, are most of your clients keen to explore their Daddy fantasies?
My escorting experiences vary greatly. There’s definitely a lot of interest in Dominant/Submissive role-play. It’s definitely one of the experiences I get asked about a lot.
What I enjoy most about escorting is the wide range of people I meet and the variety of experiences that they’re looking for. At the end of the day, they all share a common thread of wanting to feel desired, nurtured, cared for, listened to. We all crave intimacy, connection, substance – escorting is one way to provide that to people.
I feel very honoured and fortunate to have the platform and the fans that I have. I love interacting and connecting with people all over the world. I got into the adult entertainment industry to create authentic sexual experiences in a safe space and to demonstrate that we can be fully comfortable and expressive with our sexuality. It’s very liberating and empowering to be able to share this with my fans.
Keeping up with my fan-subscription pages and Twitter is definitely a lot of work. It can become overwhelming at times. I handle everything personally – from shooting and editing content, to marketing and promoting, to interacting with fans. I often wish I had an assistant who could help manage everything for me. But it’s a wonderful problem to have when you get to a place where you need an assistant.