What’s your manscaping technique?
There’s really no right or wrong when it comes to body hair. Some guys are naturally hairy, some guys are naturally fairly smooth, and some guys are somewhere in-between.
Shaving or trimming your body hair is a way of shaping your look, defining how you want to present yourself to the world. It’s also a way of defining how you want to present yourself to the guys who are hopefully going to be viewing the results of your manscaping up close.
What are some of the manscaping options that guys are exploring? Let’s look at some case studies.
Give them something to look at
Dani Robles has got a chest to be proud of, and that clippered dusting of hair across his pecs definitely draws your attention.
A touch of ginger
Not that we need any encouragement to linger over the impressive chest of Leander, but a dusting of ginger is icing on the cake.
Braydan Ifould has taken it all off. You could slide an ice-cube down those abs, slowly…
Zario Travezz can take it from hairy to smooth – and we’re happy either way.
Teddy Torres has shown us that he’s prepared to trim if required, but we love him most when he’s just serving his body up in all of its hairy natural goodness.
Are you turned on by hairy guys?
For some guys, the idealised image of the sexy gay man that they’re aspiring to have sex with might be a guy that’s gym-toned and incredibly sleek and smooth.
Following the principle that you should always dress like the guy that you want to go home with, this could result in countless hours and an investment of a lot of money in waxing, shaving, laser-ing, and applying depilatory creams to the nooks, crannies, and crevices of your body to remove any sign of unwanted and ‘unattractive’ hair. Trimming, tweezing, plucking — doing our best to live up to the aspirational ideal. Depending on how hairy you are naturally, then that can be quite a challenge.
For others, it’s a guy with a bit of hair on his body that gets the attention.
Embracing your inner-bear does have the advantage that you can cut-back on the man-scaping. That’s a win-win right there.
Obviously, what you find attractive can change or evolve over time. Or, it may just depend on what you’re feeling like on the day.
Always keen to talk about sexual desire and erotic fantasies, we took to the couch of Nicholas Rose — a counsellor that specialises in working with gay men — and asked him to explain why our sexual turn-ons might change over time.
“The things we perceive as sexually attractive will be influenced by a whole range of factors — our first loves, previous experiences, our fantasies, as well as more external information such as fashion, cultural and societal norms, and what our families and friends are doing and talking about…” explains Rose.
“As fashions change, then the things that we look for are likely to change. What’s likely to be more fixed is what we want from others in relation to personality — for example quiet or outgoing, thoughtful or spontaneous, energetic or reflective.”
Is it a case of opposites attract? Do smooth guys generally get it on with hairy guys? Do bears only want to fuck twinks?
“Why wouldn’t we want to be with someone who has attributes that we feel we are lacking?” says Rose. “Our relationships provide us with an opportunity to learn about ourselves, and it’s a really healthy way to discover how wrong our judgements and generalisations can be.”
What about the perception that hairy guys are more masculine?
“History has given us many heroic figures where hair has been a central part of masculinity — for example the biblical figure of Samson…” confirms Rose. “It’s so deeply entrenched in our historical psyche that it’s almost genetic.”
“Of course, we also know that there are strong and masculine men who aren’t hairy. So, until science proves that hairy men are stronger and more masculine, being hairy is likely to go in and out of fashion.”