My wish-list for a queer honeymoon
Apart from upgrading your home appliances and finally getting a matching set of crockery, one of the best things about getting married has to be the opportunity to plan an unforgettably romantic honeymoon.
Your honeymoon is an important occasion — nothing like the make-or-break of a first weekend away together, but you want your honeymoon to signal the kind of life that you’re embarking on together. Romantic, stylish, and effortless.
I’ve never been on a honeymoon so I don’t really have any expertise or experience in this, but my general guidance includes the following points:
- Getting married is an amazing milestone, but — I’m assuming — it must be a fairly intense experience that probably gets a bit overwhelming and exhausting. If you’re going straight from the wedding celebration to your honeymoon, plan to start fairly low-key. I don’t like to use the word ‘pamper’ but you’re probably both going to need a little pampering. Couples massage? Cocktails by the pool? Meditation retreat? That kind of thing.
- Plan a trip that you’re both going to enjoy. If one of you likes relaxing by the pool and the other wants activity and adventure, then find a destination or itinerary that gives you both. You don’t have to do everything together, but plan a trip that provides opportunities for you both to indulge your passions.
- Go somewhere that neither of you have been before. Honeymoons are about new beginnings, start that journey by discovering somewhere new together.
- Make it special. You may have blown all your savings on the Vera Wang, but try and make your honeymoon as easy and hassle-free as possible. You might be a champagne-and-first-class kind of couple, but equally you could fly a budget airline and have a fantastic adventure — just try and avoid hanging around in airports or sharing dormitory-style accommodation.
Your choice of honeymoon destination might be narrowed down by a whole range of factors, including the obvious things such as budget and location — you don’t want to have to sell the wedding gifts to pay for it, and you need to be able to get to it easily.
I don’t have any imminent wedding plans, however, I am well advanced in planning the honeymoon. Here’s my shortlist so far:
Driving a camper-van around New Zealand
- Something I’ve always wanted to do is to take a couple of weeks out and explore New Zealand. The wineries of the Marlborough region, the whales of Kaikoura, maybe a couple of nights of luxury at Blanket Bay, Milford Sound, the glaciers, and watching the sunrise from Stewart Island.
- For a small country, there’s so much to see and do in New Zealand, and I like the idea of tootling around quietly in a camper van and stopping wherever we fancy.
- I’d start off in Auckland, work my way south, eventually flying back out of Queenstown.
Relaxing in the Aland Islands
- Ostensibly part of Finland but governed autonomously, this is an archipelago of thousands of small islands and rocky outcrops stretching from the edge of Finland to the Swedish coast.
- By all accounts there’s not much to do apart from relax, enjoy the food and the beer, and hop from one island to the next. Sounds idyllic.
- Easiest access is from Helsinki.
Swimming with turtles off the coast of Borneo
- Borneo has always seemed like a bit of a wild, untamed place, but I’m hearing really great things about adventure travel options that enable you to explore the island.
- I love scuba diving and snorkelling, and apparently you can happily float around in the warm waters while small inquisitive turtles check you out — although you do have to be a little wary of the monitor lizards.
- Easiest access is to fly in from Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia.
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Driving through California
- Pick up a convertible from San Francisco, explore the dramatic Yosemite National Park, out through Death Valley, gaze in awe at the Grand Canyon, a wild couple of nights in Las Vegas, and then back to Los Angeles to fly back to the real world.
- I’ve seen it done in movies — it looks a lot of fun.
Learning to sea-kayak around Okinawa
- While the bright and bustling neon metropolis of Tokyo is compelling, at the other end of Japan the island of Okinawa offers a completely different experience .
- With a more tropical climate, Okinawa is a bit of an outdoorsy paradise that offers trail-running, cycling, and coasteering. Sea-kayaking isn’t something I’ve ever done before, but it sounds like an amazing way to explore the coast of this part of the world. How hard can it be?
- Easiest access is to fly into Tokyo and then transfer on an internal flight to Naha.
Drinking chianti in Tuscany
- This iconic region of Italy offers stunning landscapes, great food, and it’s easy to get to.
- There are some top-drawer accommodation options in this region — I really like Villa Bianca which is near Gambassi Terme, but you might want to go for something a bit more upmarket.
- When you need a change of scene, take a day trip to explore Florence, San Gimignano, Sienna, or Lucca. Gorgeous.
- Fly to Pisa, hire a car, and you’re there in no time.
Snorkelling through coral at Port Douglas
- Tropical paradise ticks a lot of people’s boxes when thinking about honeymoons, and Port Douglas on the north-east coast of Australia is pretty spectacular.
- You have the Great Barrier Reef, the Daintree Rainforest, and the kind of weather that just encourages you to lie around the pool drinking cocktails.
- I really like Thala Beach Lodge — a quiet eco lodge which is the perfect escape from the rest of the world.
- Fly into Cairns and then hire a car.
Speak the language of love in Aix-en-Provence
- The south of France offers lavender, rolling fields, and sun-kissed landscapes — there’s nothing more romantic than feeling like you’re honeymooning in a Cezanne painting.
- I really like Le Pigonnet, which is effortlessly French.
- You might want to splash out on something a bit more boutique for your honeymoon, but the joy of this place is wandering through the old town and driving out to explore the villages across the countryside.
- Fly or train to Marseille and then hire a car.
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Villa it up on Koh Samui
- One of Thailand’s most popular islands, Koh Samui delivers the kind of great weather and amazing beaches that makes this region a top honeymoon destination.
- You can avoid the crowds by opting for a private villa — check out Suralai, I’ve spent a blissful week here. I’m a huge fan of anywhere that encourages you to linger over breakfast and then discuss with the chef what the menu should be for the rest of the day.
- Easiest to fly to Bangkok and then take an internal flight to Koh Samui.