Nico Tortorella is an actor currently appearing in television series Younger.
As well as making waves with their acting, Tortorella talks candidly about identifying as non-binary, having a fluid sexuality, and being in a polyamorous relationship.
As part of the promotion for a new book of poetry that Tortorella has published, they appeared on the Wendy Williams show.
It’s not easy to try and educate the world about who you are and how you identify, but Tortorella tackles the challenge with humour and openness.
You can spend a bit of time getting lost in the YouTube comments, but it’s clear that not everyone connected with what Tortorella was trying to say.
Watch the interview for the full Tortorella experience, but here’s a few quick crib notes in case you need to try and explain to anyone some of the terms that Tortorella is grappling with.
What does non-binary means?
Most people identify as either male or female – this is a binary view of gender, if you’re not this then you must be that. However, some people don’t identify with any gender, while for other people their gender changes over time.
The term ‘non-binary’ speaks to an experience of gender that is not simply male or female. The term ‘genderqueer’ is sometimes used in this context.
People who identify as non-binary generally prefer gender-neutral pronouns.
What does it mean to be sexually fluid?
Our understanding of sexual orientation is still evolving, but some people identify as having a fluid sexuality. This means that they experience changes in their sexual orientation over a period of time, or they may describe themselves as being attracted to a specific person not a specific gender.
What does polyamory mean?
Polyamory means that you are in a relationship but both you and your partner consent to that relationship not being monogamous. This is generally described as having an ‘open’ relationship.
What are some examples of polyamory?
Polyamory is different to polygamy. Polygamy is where one man marries multiple wives. Polygamy is an accepted practice in the Mormon faith, and also the Islamic faith.
Polyamory doesn’t draw from religious traditions but is a relationship choice by the people involved.