Unless you’re a bit obsessed about US politics, you may not be too focused on who might potentially be the candidates vying to contest the presidential election in 2020.
But, whether you like it or not, elections are on the horizon and candidates are jostling for position.
One of the candidates from the Democrats worth keeping an eye on is Pete Buttigieg. He could be the first gay President of the United States.
Who is Pete Buttigieg?
Buttigieg is currently the Mayor of the city of South Bend in Indiana. He’s held that position since 2012. He’s 37 years old, a graduate from Harvard, a Rhodes Scholar, and a military veteran who served in Afghanistan.
Buttigieg has become the first gay candidate to seek the Democrat nomination to run for President.
Buttigieg is married – he and his husband Chasten Glezman were married in 2018.
Can he win?
When he first announced his intention to contest the nomination, Buttigieg was seen as a long-shot. He’s up against experienced politicians, with high profiles and the ability to raise significant financial backing. But, momentum and buzz continue to grow around Buttigieg. He could definitely be a contender. A nomination contest with a large field of candidates can be unpredictable, and Buttigieg has a strong profile within the Democratic party – a profile that he enhanced when he ran for the chair of the party in 2017, withdrawing before the final vote.
Buttigieg represents generational change in US politics. He represents mid-west voters. He connects with the day-to-day issues of the electorate in a way that feels authentic.
What’s his problem?
Buttigieg has confessed that he has a bad ‘gaydar’.
The Advocate reports that in a conversation with Buzzfeed, Buttigieg said that – “My gaydar is not great to begin with and definitely doesn’t work over long stretches of time…” Buttigieg was responding to speculation as to whether James Buchanan – President of the US from 1857-1861 – was actually the first gay President.
When people refer to their ‘gaydar’ they’re talking about a sixth-sense that supposedly helps to determine whether a guy is queer or not.
How to improve your Gaydar
Having a finely-honed ‘gaydar’ is useful to increase your chances that if you approach a guy to start a conversation, that it might lead to something more – it helps you to be fairly confident that you’re both on the same team when it comes to sexuality.
There used to be time that you could instantly tell a straight guy from a queer guy just by looking at the underwear that they were wearing. Not so anymore. Run your eye over the guys in the gym locker room at your gym and most of them will be rocking branded, well-fitted, stylish underwear that lift and separate in all the right places. Straight guys have obviously realised just how important good underwear is. There are still some brands that are a bit of a give-away – if a guy is wearing something like Nasty Pig then he’s sending a pretty clear signal of where he stands on the sexuality spectrum.
This is another test that used to be more helpful than perhaps it is now. If a guy had taken the trouble to ensure he was trimmed and plucked, and enhancing his assets from every angle, then it was pretty clear which market that he was seeking to appeal to. But it seems that the straight guys have also realised the benefits that a bit of manscaping can bring. It’s no longer just the queer guys that are keen to make their penis look bigger and their balls a bit more presentable.
This takes a bit more effort, but can be fairly revealing. How does he react when you mention Lady Gaga? Does he appreciate that your new coat is bang on trend? Is his smart-phone the latest model? Does he look interested when you start talking about sport? Does he order beer or a white wine spritzer? Does he fit any of the stereotypes or expected behaviours that we’ve constructed for ourselves? It’s all a bit exhausting.
The direct approach
If someone has caught your attention and you’re wondering if you should give them the benefit of your allure, the simplest and generally most reliable way to put your Gaydar to work is to just ask them – “Hey, are you into guys?” Avoid any confusion or uncertainty – get to the point, and get down to business.