Unlock the pleasure of your prostate
When it comes to gay sex, we talk a lot about the prostate. Let’s take a look at why this part of the body is so important.
What is the prostate?
The prostate is a gland that forms part of the male reproductive system. It’s not unique to humans – most mammals have a prostate gland.
You can’t see your prostate just by studying yourself in the mirror. The prostate is found below the bladder – the urethra passes through it.
Your prostate is sheathed in the muscles of the pelvic floor – these contract during ejaculation.
The prostate generates fluid that contributes to the volume of your semen. This fluid is essential for prolonging the lifespan of your sperm during the reproductive process.
The prostate has a bit of an image problem as it’s generally only spoken about in terms of prostate cancer. As men get older, one of the health issues they often encounter is prostate cancer.
Why is the prostate associated with gay sex?
Because of its position in the body, your prostate can be stimulated from the anterior wall of the rectum or externally via the perineum.
This is sometimes referred to as prostate massage.
Most men find prostate massage pleasurable. Some men can achieve orgasms through prostate massage without any other stimulation.
For this reason, your prostate is sometimes referred to as the male G-spot or the P-spot.
Anal sex or ass-play is the ideal way to stimulate your prostate – that’s why gay guys are particularly in tune with the pleasure that can be created through hitting the prostate.
The best way to figure out how to connect with your prostate and how to maximise your prostate pleasure is to get your hands on a dildo or sex toy and experiment.
How to buy a dildo to massage your prostate
Walking into a sex store can be a bit intimidating. It’s not easy to look at a shelf full of different size dildos and try to figure out which one is going to give you the most pleasure when you stick it up your butt.
But it is helpful to get a sense of what the different options available look like, even if you then hit the online stores for further research.
Not all dildos are designed for prostate massage. Big massive things that leave you gaping are more about training your body to take a fist than tickling your prostate. Look at where your prostate is located – you’re looking for dildo with a bit of precision to help you pinpoint and play with your pleasure spot.
Also, everybody’s body is a bit different. You’re going to need to experiment a bit to find what works best for you.
Here’s some things to consider:
What shape dildo should I buy?
When you’re shopping for a dildo or sex toy, you’ll see that they’re either shaped to look a lot like a penis, or they’re designed to look like contemporary works of art.
It’s fun to try both. When it comes to massaging your prostate, you’ll probably get the best results from the works of art – a more abstract shape usually works better for finding and stimulating your prostate.
How big should my dildo be?
Don’t be too ambitious. Especially if you’re just starting out, start small and build up in size. Comfortably taking a massive dildo is impressive, but it takes a fair bit of practice and training your body.
In the specifications of a dildo, you’ll usually be given a total length and an insertable length. So, the total length of your dildo might be eight inches, but the insertable length might only be five inches – the rest is taken up by the balls or the bit that you hold on to while you fuck yourself with it.
Also, if you’re specifically looking to hit your prostate for maximum pleasure, you don’t need something massive to do that.
For prostate massage, it’s unlikely that you’ll need anything longer than an insertable length of seven inches, but experiment until you find what works for you.
Think about width as well. It’s not all about length – having a girthy dildo can also deliver a lot of pleasure.
What lube should I use?
One of the most important factors in maximising your ass-play fun with dildos is to use plenty of lube.
You’ll get the best results from silicone-based lube. This will last longer and will give you a smoother sensation compared to water-based lube.
If you’re just getting started, be patient with your body – take it slow and use a lot of lube. Let your body slowly relax and get used to the sensation of taking the dildo. Don’t try and shove it in all at once – gradually go deeper as your body relaxes.
How do I clean my dildo?
Soap and water should do the trick. Store it somewhere clean and dry. Take care of your dildo – you want to keep it in top condition as it’s going up your butt.