Tantra – A path to ecstasy, liberation and bliss
If you’ve ever thought that you might need to shake up your sex life a bit, then you might have wondered whether exploring something like Tantra could be the answer.
Let’s take a look at what it’s all about.
Is Tantra just a way for gay guys to spice up their sex life a bit?
Tantric practices definitely will add a new flavour to anyone’s sex life, irrespective if you’re in a relationship or not.
It depends a bit on the teacher that you’re working with – some will take more of a healing and wellness perspective, while others will focus more on unlocking the power of your orgasm and exploring your potential for pleasure.
Especially within the gay community, we carry a lot of guilt, shame and fears, which restrict self-expression. These emotions are stored deep within our being and influence how we interact with ourselves and the people around us. Our mental health and emotional well-being are huge factors in our overall health.
Tantra works predominantly with breath, sound, and sensory awareness to release stored trauma and blockages, to free up stagnant energy, which can promote a great sense of joy, healing and well-being.
Is Tantra right for everyone?
The path of Tantra is a path for those who are looking for a deeper connection to themselves and their partners. Tantra is considered a sacred practice that enables you to combine sexuality with spirituality, leading to personal growth, joy and fulfilment in life.
Tantra invites you to be brave enough to become aware of your emotional wounds so they can be healed and transformed.
In ancient cultures, sex and sexuality was a key component of sacred rituals. Sex was often used as a gateway into a space of bliss, liberation and ecstasy. The doorway to this experience is your heart and your body, not your mind.
Tantra can help us become more aware of our body and more in touch with our body. We use breathing techniques – our breath – to tap into our spiritual energy.
Anyone can experience Tantra, but you have to approach it with a sense of openness and curiosity and a willingness to surrender into vulnerability and truth.
Can Tantra help me with my intimacy issues?
If you’re looking to improve self-confidence, a healthy body image, the ability to connect to others or to establishing a healthier relationship with yourself through intimacy and sensuality, then tantric therapy is worth exploring.
Through the use of massage and sensual touch, various meditation practices, sound, breath work and sensory awareness, Tantra breaks false beliefs around man-to-man connections, abandonment and neglect.
By activating your body’s spiritual energy, Tantra contributes to the release of trauma, shame and feelings of unworthiness, which will help support the development of a well-integrated gay identity alongside an enhanced spiritual awareness.
Tantra can help you reclaim your power by creating balance between giving and receiving, helping you to allow true love and understanding back into your life.
Is Tantra something that can be explored online?
For many of us, sex with strangers is what we’ve become used to. Dating apps can be a great distraction to avoid connecting with our true self, to avoid the experience of genuine love.
If you’re looking for something beyond transactional sex, Tantra provides a pathway for the curious to expand our horizon of knowledge with regards to sexual pleasure and fulfilment. For those who do explore the path of Tantra, they unavoidably will discover an entire new galaxy beyond the stereotypical gay landscape of top and bottom.
There are lots of online tantra courses that you can explore – whether that’s a recorded session or a live workshop. Online options are a great way to develop an understanding of Tantra and to begin your journey.
Is the best way to get started with a one-on-one session or a group session?
This really depends on what feels right for you. One-on-one sessions can be good for beginners to help you work on some of the breathing techniques, but you’ll generally find that group sessions feel more dynamic as you feel the energy of other men around you.
Tantra is usually about getting naked, and frequently involves self-pleasuring. In group sessions, you’ll generally be working alone and together – so you’re going to need to feel comfortable about getting intimate with other guys.
What are the origins of Tantra?
Tantra is closely associated with spirituality, but it’s not a religion. Tantra is often used to broadly describe the ancient traditions of using sexual energy to transcend our physical limitations and to connect with the higher energy of the world around us.
The earliest examples of these traditions have been found in Ancient Egypt, Ancient Greece, the Mayan people, and the Aztec civilisation.
Tantra, as we know it today, draw most directly on Hindu and Buddhist texts that were written in India, somewhere between 300 and 400 AD.
In India, Tantra was at its most popular in the 11th and 12th centuries. Although widely persecuted and forced underground, the Tantra traditions were preserved in the monasteries of Tibet and by travelling spiritual teachers or shamans.
Today, Tantra traditions are widely practised and celebrated. At its core, Tantra is based on forms of meditation that use our sexual energy to connect with the world around us.
Sex magic tips that you can discover through Tantra
Sex Magic Tip #1: Positive Affirmations
The concept is actually quite simple. When you’re ready to ‘get it on’ with a fun lover or fuck-buddy, decide before you start that you want to go at it for at least one full hour.
When we are highly aroused, every cell in our body is activated and vibrating at a high frequency. This higher vibration relaxes us, fills us with endorphins, and makes us highly suggestible. The longer you go without ejaculating, the more time you have to play with this energy of high arousal and high suggestibility, and you’re exceptionally highly suggestible right after you cum.
Being highly suggestible means that your brain — which is usually way too busy and dominant — is taking a break, so information and wisdom can by-pass your brain and take a short-cut right into every cell of your body.
So, get aroused and stay that way for a while. Then, when you and your buddy are both moaning, groaning, and laughing all over, body-to-body, or slinging cum everywhere, tell each other something kind, nourishing, and life-giving.
For instance, a lot of men are unnecessarily body-conscious and don’t like the way their bodies look for feel. So, in a highly-suggestible state — like when you’ve both been sexually aroused for a nice long time, or even right after your buddy just came — it would be helpful to whisper into his ear and say: ‘I fucking love you, man! Your body is so fun! You’re a wonderful lover! I’m glad you enjoy yourself so much in bed.’
Then, keep enjoying yourselves. Let your sex be a celebration. Make love like you already know that everything you ever needed is already here, and that the purpose of your love-making is to celebrate.
Sex Magic Tip #2: Observation and Discovery
We tend to have a lot of hard-wired sexual habits that have been embedded in us through years and years of watching porn. It’s like we’re following some kind of a script that we had no part in writing, and that we never even consciously agreed to follow.
Observation and discovery means learning how to be the observer of your own habits, and replacing old habits with new, fun sexual discoveries.
The best way to practice this is to decide before you have sex that you have no agenda, other than to have fun and learn something new. Learning something new is actually right at the core of any truly Tantric experience because Tantra is about raising our level of consciousness.
This means putting aside many of the assumptions that we might have been accepting all of our lives, unconsciously and without question. It means, just this once, it doesn’t matter who fucks who, whether anyone fucks or gets fucked, whether anyone gets off, or whether anyone even gets hard.
We get to observe and discover sex without agendas. Kiss. Rub cocks. Make sounds you haven’t made before. Or, if you’re usually a screamer, maybe see what happens when you stay silent for even a minute or two. Play. Observe. Play more. Try new things. Discover. Wrestle-play. Does he like his ass slapped? Do you? Ask! Try it! See what happens. Didn’t work for you? Try something else. Follow your bliss.
Be sure to give yourself lots of time to experiment. Decide how much time you’re going to give yourself to experiment, and stick to it. You can always go back to your old habits when you’re done, but you just might discover something far more fun during this time that you’ve devoted to trying new things, observing, and discovering what happens.
Sex Magic Tip #3: Breathing together
A lot of words in the English language refer to breath. The word ‘inspire’ literally means ‘to breathe in.’ In many languages — especially the languages of indigenous, Earth-based cultures — the word for ‘breath’ is the same as the word for ‘spirit.’ Basically, what it comes down to is that breath is our connection to all of life.
Sex with a lover or fuck-buddy takes on an amazing new quality and depth when you take the time to breathe together – synchronise your breath, time your breaths in and out so that you are matching each other. This is a vital form of communication, without words, which puts you and your lover on the same wavelength.
Best of all, it’s simple — listen to each other, match your breaths, lie still, and breathe together. Do this for three, five, ten or more minutes, and be sure to observe what feels different. It will help, after doing this for a span of time, to check in with each other and ask each other what — if anything — feels different, now that you’ve breathed together.
Sex Magic Tip #4: Sex Standing Up
Fuck standing up and see how you like it. Not feeling like fucking? You can also stroke each other’s shaft while you kiss standing up, or have some good hot frot-fun while leaning against a tree, rock, or wall. It’s like dancing with a hard-on.
Anything that breaks the ‘same-old’ routine and gives you a sense of freedom in a place where you’re safe to express yourself is good.
Sex Magic Tip #5: The Ball-Butt-Belly Breath
This is a technique you can use while masturbating, or while playing with a lover. The idea is to become more conscious how to distribute energy from your balls to other parts of your body.
Your asshole — usually associated with tightness, fear, and anxiety — can connect you with the excitement of life’s existence when you find a safe time and place to consciously give it some love. Your cock and balls literally represent a connection to the source of life-energy — chi.
An important part of Tantra is learning how to use our sexual energy to empower our life’s purpose, expression, and higher visions, and on a purely physical level, the sexual excitement or energy we generate in our asshole, cock and balls can be distributed to support us in our personal empowerment, our heart’s desire, our soul’s expression, and our ability to see the next steps we want to take in life.
Our body has energy centres — chakras — for each of these various aspects of our existence. Our belly represents our self-empowerment and the way we relate to the world. Our heart relates to our openness to giving and receiving love. Our throat represents our creative expression. The space just above our eyes, between them, represents our higher-vision centre — the third eye.
When we’re sexually aroused, rather than quickly releasing our pent-up arousal — by cumming — we can draw our attention to our breath, and consciously observe the breath moving back and forth from our cock and balls to our belly, the power centre, our heart, the love centre, our throat, the expression centre, and our third eye, the higher vision centre.
This becomes more than your imagination, as you actively observe your own breath moving through your torso, up and down your spine. Notice what happens when you focus the energy movement from your cock and balls to each specific energy centre, then back down again.
It’s important to notice also that just as your lower chakra centre — asshole, cock, balls — send energy up to activate your higher energy centres, those higher energy centres also send energy back down to re-activate your tingling energy centres in your cock, balls, and ass.
All parts of your body work in collaboration with the other parts. In a similar way, all parts of our life’s existence — from our sex to our career to our spiritual path — are integrally linked and inseparable.
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