If you’ve ever thought that you might need to shake up your sex life a bit, then you might have wondered whether exploring something like Tantra could be the answer.

I caught up with Tantra practitioner Jason to find out all about it.

What initially drew you to start exploring the world of tantra?

After joining the spiritualist church with my mother and sister, I spent the next ten years learning to become a healer. This led to me working on a telephone helpline for male survivors of sexual abuse and rape, which challenged me to address my own experiences with that. It left me with questions such as – how does the body heal after you’ve done all of the therapy? How do you learn to look after yourself? When I first came across Tantra, it just felt like that was it.

How would you explain what tantra is to someone who didn’t really know much about it?

Tantra is a spiritual pathway to freedom. It gives you the opportunity to work through all the crap that gets in the way of you being an ecstatic free being. It offers people peak experiences and glimpses of bliss. Through Tantra, you’re able to get glimpses of something beyond your normal day-to-day life.

For example, when you cum is pretty much the only time when you’re not thinking of anything - it’s the eye of the storm, a place of not thinking. Tantra is a spiritual practice that uses your sexual energy. It’s a spiritual journey that offers personal development and personal growth. Sexual energy is the rocket fuel to help you get there.

Who are the people who want to experience your practice?

There’s a wealth of heterosexual tantra schools out there. Our work is only available to men who love men.

Most of the men that we work with are in their mid-30s or early-40s. They’re a bit disillusioned or dissatisfied with aspects of their life – they’re looking for something new. Typically they’re in a relationship, but they generally don’t bring their partner to the workshop.

Over 10,000 men have taken part in our festivals, workshops, and retreats.

One of the services that you offer is Tantric BDSM. How does that work?

BDSM and Tanra are really different sides of the same coin. We use BDSM techniques to help people achieve a state of surrender – they start to become open to be in a state of bliss. People only have blissful experiences when they’re out of control. BDSM techniques help us to accelerate that process.

If I was interested in experiencing tantra as a queer man, what’s the best way to get started?

Come to a group session and try it out. I’d recommend a group session over a one-to-one. You might be feeling nervous or apprehensive, but at a group session, everyone is going to be feeling the same way. The potential for experience is much larger at a group session, the impact will last much longer.