What you need to know before your first erotic massage
You may have read our previous article on booking a high quality erotic massage. Now that you’ve done that, what comes next? This is the part where some first-timers choose to cancel or postpone the event. There’s a saying about kink that is floating about: “It’s only kinky the first time”, and there is truth in that. Similarly, we can say that the first erotic massage is often both the scariest and the most exciting. So, before you choose to take the plunge, you can calm first-time jitters by getting some more information. I would.
What you can expect at a massage session
If you have been given an address, it’s perfectly fine to knock on the door at the appointed time. You don’t have to call or text when you’re outside, although you can if you prefer. Your masseur will have started preparing the massage room beforehand, so he will be expecting you. If you cannot find the address, you can expect some help in the form of directions or even the masseur coming out to meet you outside the building or flat. It’s London, some places are hard to find!
From the point where you meet your masseur, you are not expected to do anything special, and there’s no special “experience” or “knowledge” that you need. The masseur will lead you throughout the session, although of course you can ask questions and make requests.
What counts as “massage time”
The massage time counts from the beginning of the appointment as booked. In most cases, this means that if you’re late, your massage will be shorter. You may choose to shower, if the facilities exist, or have a chat beforehand, but be aware that it also forms part of the appointment time unless agreed otherwise. The masseur may have another appointment afterwards, and might need time to prepare, so “running over” is often not an option. If in doubt – ask!
Do you feel that you should get “free” time for late arrival or the chat you have with your masseur during your session? Think about how you pay your therapist, your therapeutic masseur or some other professional’s time. That’s right. It works the same way.
So what happens next?
You will be asked to undress and lie down for your massage. Your masseur will apply massage oil or lotion to your body and, provided that you’ve chosen a reputable masseur/agency, a thorough therapeutic massage will ensue. The erotic elements will depend on the masseur and the massage that you choose, but may include:
- Nudity (whether it’s full or partial nudity, varies, so ask beforehand)
- Erotic touch (using masseur’s hands or his whole body – torso, legs, arms). When you book, ask if it’s okay to touch the masseur.
- Teasing (may involve the use of aids such as feathers, blindfold, etc.)
- Lingam massage
Most masseurs and agencies will only accept cash (partly for the reasons of discretion), but a few take card payments. Be careful with masseurs or agencies that require payments or deposits at the time of your booking. Often it’s a legitimate way to avoid time-wasters, but there are also some scammers about. Most places will ask that you pay directly to the masseur once you arrive for your session. Tipping is not expected, although of course you may do so if the massage was truly exceptional.
Some tips & etiquette points
Everyone agrees that good manners cost nothing, but sometimes there’s specific etiquette for different areas of life. When it comes to erotic male massage, it’s a good idea to:
- Arrive on time. Early arrival could find the masseur unprepared and a late one could mean a shorter massage.
- Call ahead if you have to postpone or cancel. Life happens, any good masseur/agency will understand that. Just let them know as soon as you find out. No-shows, on the other hand, are disrespectful and could have you blacklisted. We’re all grown-ups here.
- Arrive clean or take a shower on arrival. You’d be surprised how much dead skin and dirt can peel off someone’s skin during a massage. This is especially important for erotic massage that involves a great deal of intimate touch. You know that scene from the beginning of A Star Is Born? Yeah, if you’re in a hurry, at least do that.
- Notify the masseur or agency if you are running late, along with your ETA.
- Tell your masseur if you like or dislike any particular touch.
- Offer feedback to your masseur or agency afterwards. Issues cannot be addressed if you don’t bring them up, and good feedback can make someone’s day. Let’s be excellent to each other!
You should always, always expect this
It’s all very well to advise to feed-back, but what if you don’t know what’s “okay” and “not okay” within the industry? Here’s what you should get during any erotic massage session.
- Masseur arrives on time and the session lasts the agreed time (so no “cutting corners”).
- You are not rushed. If you are unsure, ask yourself: “Am I able to relax fully or does this feel like packing my groceries at a supermarket self-service till?”
- At least one towel, which must be perfectly clean.
- If you are unsure what to do, your masseur should guide you.
A word on intimate touch
Intimate touch should be by consent. You should not feel violated or pushed into something you’re not comfortable with. If you don’t like something, you can stop it at ANY time and still continue with the massage. It’s perfectly normal and akin to asking the masseur not to massage you above your knees (because you’re ticklish/don’t like it). It’s also perfectly normal to change your mind (“actually, could you…”). It’s your massage session. You paid for this time and the masseur is there to ensure that you enjoy it.