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Gay Sex Guide: Rimming

Put your tongue to work.

Means Happy

Sep 11, 2024 — 6 min read

Everyone likes rimming, right? Whether you've got a guy's tongue in your butt or you're slurping your face between a guy's cheeks, rimming is hot.

Let's get into it.

The basics of rimming

Rimming is when you stick your face in between a guy’s butt cheeks and put your mouth to work on his fuck-hole.

The technical term is anilingus.

Rimming isn’t something that’s limited by sexuality – you can rim anyone with an ass – but it’s the gays that have pretty much mastered the art of guy-on-guy butt-munching.

What makes rimming feel so good?

There’s not a lot of science behind, but your butt is a pretty sensitive part of the body – there’s lots of nerve-endings involved – and it feels awesome to have someone stick their tongue up there.

It’s also a lot of fun being the guy doing the rimming. When you're rimming a guy, you’re connecting with him in a really intimate way and you can literally feel the pleasure that you’re giving him.

What it feels like to be rimmed?

It depends a bit whether your guy knows what he’s doing, but a good rimjob should kind of feel like he’s making out with your ass – his tongue is hitting your pleasure points and making you feel good over.

If he’s inexperienced but enthusiastic, it might feel a bit like a pig snuffling for truffles in your butt – which isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

A bad rimjob is when the guy doesn’t really know what he’s doing down there and isn’t that into it. That’s just awkward for everyone.

Top Tip 1: Keep It Clean – Douching and Diet

Sure, there’s some guys that have a kink for butts that aren’t minty fresh, but – as a general rule – one of the assumptions of the rimming experience is that you’re going to be clean.

That doesn’t mean that you necessarily have to douche, but given that rimming is generally a prelude to a solid dick-down, you might want to err on the safe side and get that job done.

At the very least, you’re going to want to take a shower before asking someone to stick their tongue up your butt.

Even if your guy is into rimming hairy ass and wants to taste your sweat, give your butt a good soaping so that you’re feeling clean and confident.

If you’re getting fucked regularly, you’ll have an understanding of how your diet plays a fairly key role in the way that your body responds to anal sex. Most people find that a diet high in fibre helps to keep everything moving and helps to reduce the time you need to spend douching.

Top Tip 2: Focus on your technique – think breath, tongue and taint

There’s more to rimming than just spreading his cheeks and sticking your tongue in.

If you think about rimming as being the prelude to anal sex, your objective is to relax your man’s hole – to get him loose, opened up, and ready for more.

Everyone’s body is different, so you’ll need to try a few different approaches to find what works best, but you’re generally going to be hitting his hole with a combination of breath, tongue and taint in order to deliver him maximum rimming pleasure.

Inexperienced rimmers tend to solely focus on a guy’s hole. Lots of aggressive tongue-work on his hole can feel good, but will soon lose its thrill. It’s not just a guy’s hole that is sensitive – work your mouth over his entire taint, it’s one big erogenous zone.

Also, make sure that you’re using all of your mouth. Sure, tonguing his hole is good, but bite, chew, spit, kiss, lick and then do it all again – keep him guessing as to what’s coming next, demonstrate your skills.

Don’t forget that your breath is one of the pleasure tools at your disposal. Gently blow on his hole and you’ll have him begging for more.

Top Tip 3: Find your preferred position

You might need to try a few different options to find a position that works for you both – you both need to be comfortable if you’re going to enjoy an extended rimming session.

An easy starting point is to have him laying on his stomach, with his ass presented to you for attention. You might move him up into a doggy-style position so that gives you different angles to play with.

You could have him on his back and push his knees back to his chest, exposing his ass that way.

You can get some great depth with your tongue if he’s sitting on your face, but you need to make sure that he’s not putting too much weight on you.

Top Tip 4: Listen to your partner for tips

Communication is critical – listen to his moans, listen to his feedback and be aware of the overall experience your partner is having to ensure everyone is having fun.

If he’s not that verbal, tune in to what his body is telling you – does he wiggle his butt when he’s feeling good? That could be your cue to go harder and deeper or maybe just keep doing more of the same.