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Looking for a sex party in London?

Check out some of the available options.

Means Happy

19 Dec 2024 — 8 min read

If you like a night out that includes a bit of a sexed-up vibe, then London’s sex parties and club nights are probably going to be high on your list of priorities.

There’s something pretty special about getting naked in club and getting off with guys you’ve never met before and are unlikely to ever see again.

Hard On

Hard On generally do a monthly club night.

Their next event will be on 18 January at Union in Vauxhall. The energy at a Hard On club night is pretty electric – music, dancing, men, sex.

If you want a behind-the-scenes look at Hard On, check out our interview with Suzie Krueger for the Naked Men Talking podcast. We talk fetish dress codes, sexual liberty, communal sexual energy, and Suzie shares her insights into men and masculinity.

Jamie HP

Jamie HP are known for their weekly events. Their main venue is Union in Vauxhall.

They have a Saturday night party and also a Sunday afternoon party.

Cruise

Presented by Gaydar at Bunker Bar, Cruise is a quarterly party for guys looking to make an in-person connection.

Bunker Bar is a sex-on-premises venue. There's a bar, changing room, coat-check, and various play-spaces to explore.

The next event is on 29 March and the theme is Lycra.

Wrestling singlet? Bike Shorts? Speedo? Or you can just always take everything off and be naked. It's that kind of party.

London Fetish Week

Fetish Week London is an annual event that takes place each summer - it's one of Europe’s major celebrations of all things kink.

What I love about Fetish Week London is that whatever kind of fetish you’re into, you’re bound to find something within Fetish Week that will rock your boat. It’s also a great time to experiment, to try something new, and to socialise with some fellow kinksters.

Fetish Week London is a massive kink-fest – a week of total filth that the sex-positive guys always look forward to.

What happens at a sex party?

Different parties in different cities will each have a bit of a unique kind of vibe. The main thing is to go with an open mind and take your lead from what’s happening around.

Dress Code

Getting the dress code right is a fairly important first step when you’re contemplating a sex party. You might not be allowed to enter if you don’t comply with the required dress code.

Some parties are fairly relaxed about dress code, whereas others take it very seriously.

If you’re unsure if your leather harness is going to cut it with the door-bitch, check out the organiser’s social media and see if you can get a sense of the level of outfit or fetish-wear that will be expected.

For any sort of sex party, you’re generally going to want to wear something that has a bit of a fetish edge. That could be as simple as a jockstrap and a harness, or you might need to invest in something more.

Who goes to sex parties?

The great thing about club-based sex parties in cities such as London is that they attract a pretty diverse bunch of guys. You’ll see all ages – usually early-20s and upwards – and you’ll see all body types, personalities, and fetish.

You generally don’t get a lot of attitude at sex parties – everyone is up for a bit of fun and some great music.

Online sex parties

Cam-sex and video chat aren’t anything new, but the lockd0wn isolation of Covid-19 saw an explosion in our online lives.

Ever the innovators, we were all quick to put the technology to work and explore the world of online sex parties.

What happens at an online sex party?

Like most things in life, sex parties come in all shapes and sizes. They’re obviously not everyone’s cup of tea, but if you’re in the mood for a bit of fun then it’s something that might be worth exploring.

Basically, you pretty much just set your camera up, get naked, and enjoy the thrill of having guys watching you while you wank as you get off watching other guys wank. It’s good fun.

Online sex parties don’t have to be particularly organised – it could just be you and a couple of mates setting up a group video call, getting naked, and working each other over – visually and verbally. If you want something a bit more structured, a number of the regular nights have adapted their format and taken their sex-positive community online.

One of the challenges of running an online sex party is that – for a range of reasons – the main video conferencing platforms aren’t that keen for them to be used for sexual activity or content. It still happens, obviously, but you just have to be a bit discrete about it.

Before you get started, it’s a good idea to test out your camera and your position. Whether you’re using your phone or your laptop, you want to make sure that the technology is working and that you’ve got the angles and the lighting right so that you’re presenting yourself appropriately.

It depends on how many guys are taking part, and the platform that you’re using, but you’ll probably be able to scroll through to see who’s there, and there’s probably going to be a chat function so that you can post messages to the group or private messages to other guys.

If you want to retain a bit of anonymity, think about that in advance. The screen-name that you input during the log-in process is probably going to be displayed on screen – like a work-call. You might want to use a pseudonym. Also, think about whether you’re happy for your face to be seen on-screen.

The good thing about an online sex party is that it’s a different way to experience sexual self-pleasure. Masturbation is generally fairly solitary and functional. An online sex party encourages you to think about it in a different way – it’s a communal activity, you’re connecting with other guys, you’re taking your time.

Is an online sex party a risk to my reputation?

Like anything that you put on the internet, it’s possible that the intimate moments that you’re sharing with others could end up with a wider audience than you’d anticipated.

If you’ve got the kind of job where it could be a problem if there are naked photos or video of you out there, then you probably need to be a bit careful about how you approach an online sex party.

Obviously, you don’t want to film yourself doing anything illegal, but if you’re not cool with the wider world seeing you get a bit sexual, then you might want to explore a Mexican wrestling mask, a fetish hood, or a balaclava to retain a bit of mystery.

How to plan a sex party

It's always fun to get a few guys together for a bit of... fun.

But what are some of the essentials that you need to be thinking about when planning a party?

Who do you want there?

Anonymous fun can be a total turn-on, if that's what you're into. But it's not a bad idea to think about the guest-list and make sure that the guys that you're bringing together are going to deliver the vibe that you're looking for.

What sort of party do you want?

Sex parties come in all shapes and sizes. You might just want to freestyle it and see what happens, or you might want to set some rules. It could be a circle jerk, it could be a drug-free sober space, or it could be an opportunity to explore a specific fetish.

Do you want an audience?

You don't have to draw the curtains if you want the neighbours to watch, or you could take your buddies to a cruising spot and let other guys watch and join in, or you might just want to stream the entire thing online.

Be proactive about health

I'm not technically a doctor but the roller-coaster of the last few years has got us all fairly clued up about all aspects of our health.

You don't want to be asking for proof of vaccination at the door, but it's important that you're taking care of yourself. Whether it's Monkeypox or Covid or any of the myriad of STIs that are on our radar, make sure that you're testing regularly.

Don't go into a sex party worrying that you might transmit something to someone else. Stay home, get tested, get better, then get back out amongst it.

Mix it up a bit

If you want to add some mystery to your sex party, think about ways that you can incorporate barriers into your set-up. Glory holes are great and you can set up temporary glory holes in your home - put those DIY skills to the test!