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When is the next Bator Bro event?

A unique opportunity to explore the potential of communal masturbation.

Means Happy

Nov 25, 2024 — 5 min read

Communal masturbation thought-leader, Nick Woof and his Bator Bro events continue to go from strength to strength.

The next greased-up get-together is scheduled for 15 December - keep an eye on the Bator Bro socials for ticket details.

The venue is in East London's Hackney Wick and it's a laid-back warehouse kind of vibe.

Could ecstatic yoga add to your communal masturbation experience?

One of the practitioners at the centre of the Venn diagram that maps the intersection between yoga, tantra, and masturbation is Zachary Wilcox - a writer, director, and yogi.

On a recent episode of the How To Date Men podcast, Zachary talks about ecstatic yoga, communal masturbation, and the power of being vulnerable.

Listen to the conversation

Listen to Nick Woof on Naked Men Talking

Nick Woof was recently a guest on the podcast, Naked Men Talking.

The conversation included Nick's discovery of virtual circle-jerks, the power of brotherhood and bromance, and how communal masturbation can be a gateway to intimacy and forming deeper interpersonal connections.

Listen here.

What happens at a Bator Bro event?

Bator Bro promotes Erotic Male Worship as a kink. It brings together masturbation brotherhood, edging/bondage, body fetishes and tantric practices together.

This is an event that attracts open-minded men of all backgrounds, with the common goal of exploring richer forms of intimacy through hands, touch and body worship.

If you identify as an edger, bator, side, exhibitionist, voyeur or kinkster, this is probably your kind of thing.

While this is a sex-positive space, no sucking or fucking is allowed. This is all hand-work, although kissing, nipple play, arm pit worship, and eye contact are all encouraged.

Why do we get off on communal masturbation?

There's nothing new about masturbation - evolutionary studies have demonstrated that it's one of the core human characteristics that we share with our earliest ancestors. But jacking off is having a bit of zeitgeist moment. Not only is everyone doing it, but everyone is doing their best to elevate it into a bit of an art-form.

I'm still looking for funding to do the research on this, but I'm guessing that our lock-down experience during the pandemic has played a fairly key role in focusing our minds on our own dicks and the ways in which we can maximise our pleasure.

The increasingly online way in which we experience sexual arousal also has something to do with all of this. It's not just that we access porn online, but all our dating and hook-up encounters begin with an online interaction. In addition, the mainstreaming of monetising our bodies through fan-subscription platforms - again, turbo-charged by lock-down - has got to be rewiring our expectations of sexual arousal and the sort of sexual intimacy that we're looking for.

This hyper-online world and an online-first approach to sexuality and intimacy has fuelled the emergence of the 'gooner' sub-culture. Gooners celebrate masturbation - they are often described as solosexual or pornosexual. A gooner prefers to masturbate his own cock rather than having an in-personal sexual encounter with another person.

As well as really enjoying their own masturbation sessions, gooners love to watch other guys masturbate. You don't have to identify as a gay man to be a gooner, but an obsession with cock and a love of watching other guys jacking off has a fairly high correlation with dudes that are into dudes.

There's a real community that has built around the gooner identity. It's a bate community - guys who love jacking off, guys who love watching other guys jack off, and guys that like to jack off together. Those online bate communities sometimes come together in real-world events - events such as Bator Bro.