Dating

Why is dating gay guys so hard?

Put the technology to work and connect with guys near you.

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Jul 27, 2024 — 3 min read

There's nothing easy about online dating - it takes time, persistence, and resilience. You can't sit back and wait for offers of dates and hook-ups to just come knocking, you've got to be proactive.

It's important that you're putting the technology to work and that you're using all of the tools at your disposal.

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Learning from our past

For queer guys, hooking up has always required a bit of ingenuity. In years gone by, tactics included signals, codes, a secret language, beats, and cruising grounds. In life before the internet, personal ads were a key strategy - writing letters, waiting for responses - the success rate was low, but it undoubtedly was worth the effort.

With the decriminalisation of homosexuality in many countries across the world, the rise of LGBTQ bars and safe spaces made it easier for queer people to meet each other - drawing queer people together in the bigger cities, creating a queer ‘scene’ and a sense of community.

Unleashing the power of dating apps

The rise of the internet and the shift to online dating sites such as Gaydar was a huge leap forward from the days of the personal ads. This evolution of queer dating was accelerated even further by the emergence of the smart-phone and the innovation of location-based dating apps - a total game-changer.

Location-based dating apps enabled us to quickly and easily identify guys who were close and that were looking for a hookup. A quick chat, and - if you were both on the same page - then you could quickly sort out the logistics. The power of smart-phones making it surprisingly easy and convenient to have sex, wherever you are.