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All about bottoming!

Everything you need to know for some anal fun.

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Sep 11, 2024 — 4 min read

In terms of sex, the bottom describes the person who is receiving the penetration. There are perceptions that connect being a bottom to having a more passive, submissive mindset. This can certainly be true but is by no means a given – there’s nothing stopping you being a dominant and aggressive bottom. Another misconception is that bottoms are somehow less masculine – again, not true.

Being a bottom means that you like being fucked in the ass. Let’s explore that.

Helpful tips for bottoming

Practice makes perfect

The first time might not always feel super-pleasurable – getting fucked is a pretty intense sensation. It’s a lot to process.

It’s a good idea to practice before you commit to the real thing. A great way to do this is with some anal toys for beginners. There are many smaller toys that that will get you used to the sensation, and you can grow in size. If toys are not your thing you can start with fingering or ask your play partner to finger you and slowly add a finger to the mix. Do this until you feel ready for your man’s meat.

Always be prepared

Eat lots of soluble and insoluble fibres – this is found in foods such as peas, oats, nuts, wheat bran, vegetables, banana, apples. This will help with maximising digestion with the aim to be clean.

Give your ass a douche will ensure that you’re clean and confident and ready for action.

Good Lube = Better Sex

Lube will make being penetrated so much easier – done right, bottoming should be pain free. There are so many lubes available but we would recommend to start with a hybrid lube. This is water-based lube with a hint of silicone. It stays wet for longer and won’t damage your toys.

Try various positions

Try as many positions as you can think of, you might be surprised on what you enjoy the most. Also work your hips, and lower back. Feel what is happening and react. Arching your back and tilting your hips a certain way can work wonders, play with it.

Have fun and don’t worry too much

After all this preparation the most important thing is to create a space where you are happy for it to happen. The main thing now is to relax and enjoy your man, let it all happen and let go of any concerns. If there is something you are not enjoying just communicate it and direct play towards a something else.