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How to plan a sex party

Get the basics right and set yourself up for a good time.

Means Happy

Oct 4, 2024 — 4 min read

It's always fun to get a few guys together for a bit of... fun.

But what are some of the essentials that you need to be thinking about when planning a party?

Who do you want there?

Anonymous fun can be a total turn-on, if that's what you're into. But it's not a bad idea to think about the guest-list and make sure that the guys that you're bringing together are going to deliver the vibe that you're looking for.

What sort of party do you want?

Sex parties come in all shapes and sizes. You might just want to freestyle it and see what happens, or you might want to set some rules. It could be a circle jerk, it could be a drug-free sober space, or it could be an opportunity to explore a specific fetish.

Do you want an audience?

You don't have to draw the curtains if you want the neighbours to watch, or you could take your buddies to a cruising spot and let other guys watch and join in, or you might just want to stream the entire thing online.

Be proactive about health

I'm not technically a doctor but the roller-coaster of the last few years has got us all fairly clued up about all aspects of our health.

You don't want to be asking for proof of vaccination at the door, but it's important that you're taking care of yourself. Whether it's Monkeypox or Covid or any of the myriad of STIs that are on our radar, make sure that you're testing regularly.

Don't go into a sex party worrying that you might transmit something to someone else. Stay home, get tested, get better, then get back out amongst it.

Mix it up a bit

If you want to add some mystery to your sex party, think about ways that you can incorporate barriers into your set-up. Glory holes are great and you can set up temporary glory holes in your home - put those DIY skills to the test!

Make it easy for guests to wash up after

Clean-up options are always a fairly high priority for a sex party.

If you're a guest at a party, be self-sufficient – make sure you’ve got a bottle of hand sanitiser and some wipes in your baise-en-ville.

If you're hosting, paper towels, access to a shower, and wipe-clean surfaces are a good starting point.

CMNM: Cruise

If you're not quite ready to host your own sex party but you want to immerse yourself in the sexual energy of a room full of naked men, join us at CMNM: Cruise.

This is our quarterly party at Bunker Bar in London.

Bunker Bar is a sex-on-premises venue. There's a bar, changing room, coat-check, and various play-spaces to explore.