The chief censor in New Zealand has been studying the nation’s porn habits and has found that a third of all pornography being watched depicts non-consensual sexual activity.

It’s the country’s first report into sexual viewing habits and it paints a concerning picture about the type of porn being watched. The study was completed by reviewing the 200 most popular clips on Pornhub over a 12 month period. Pornhub is one of the world’s biggest porn platforms.

According to David Shanks, the censor who has completed the report, the primary concern is that accessing porn via the internet has become the first and primary tool through which young people learn about sex. While older people generally have the experience to separate the fantasy of porn from the reality of sex, younger people are more likely to apply what they see in porn in their own sex lives.

This is particularly concerning when it comes to non-consensual activity.

“For young people, or people inclined to coercion, the repeated theme of ‘no’ becoming ‘yes’ could very easily be problematic…” explained David Shanks. “Often the videos with this content would start with a reluctant partner who starts out saying ‘no’ to sex but whose initial resistance is overcome through insistence and subtle pressure.”

The New Zealand study also found that 10% of the clips depicted scenes featuring physical aggression, and 9% contained the use of derogatory language.

The censor also described as “highly problematic” the fact that nearly half of the clips featured activity between step families, often involving depictions of a power imbalance and non-consensual activity.

Affectionate acts between partners was present in only about a quarter of the clips studied.

“It is clear from this latest work that porn provides a very poor model for young people who are developing their understanding of consent and of what a healthy sexual relationship looks like…” said the censor. “They need a real counterpoint to the fictional and confusing stories that porn offers.”

How much porn do queer men watch?

To get an understanding of the porn-watching habits of queer men, we spoke with 341 guys from around the world.

We then checked our findings with a panel of experts - consisting of porn actors, porn directors, a health professional, and a relationship counsellor.

Here are the results.

How often do you watch porn?

Over 80% of gay men watch porn at least once a week, and 39% of gay men watch porn every day.

“I watch porn every day  –  I check out clips that show up on my Twitter feed. The convenience and ready access we have to porn these days has played a big role in the rise in everyday porn consumption.”  –  Christian Mitchell, porn actor.

Pretty much all gay men watch porn sometimes. We only found 2% of respondents who reported that they never watched porn.

“I only watch it when I can’t be bothered to find a guy from a hook-up app.”  –  Yoshi Kawasaki, porn actor.

We did a follow-up focus group with 28 gay men to ask them about when they watch porn, how long they usually watch porn for. The average across that group was 27 minutes each session, with 39% of respondents reporting that they generally watch about 30 minutes at a time.

It’s not an exact science, but the picture that’s emerging is that most gay men are watching at least one hour of porn each week, and for many guys it’s a lot more.

“There are a number of ways that you can argue that porn can give people a distorted image of what sex is like, but it would be naive to think that it’s porn’s role to educate. The ease of accessing porn makes it all the more vital that LGBTQ-inclusive sex and relationships education is taught in schools, to counter some of the myths and misinformation that porn fantasy might support.”  -  Matthew Hodson, Aidsmap.

How do you usually watch porn?

In terms of what device guys usually watch porn on, it’s fairly evenly split between watching on a laptop (50%) or watching on a phone (44%)  -  4% of guys watch their porn in some other way, and 2% of guys reported that they don’t watch porn.

This technology and device question will be an interesting one to track over time, as with the increasing shift to mobile it’s likely that mobile will soon become most people’s go-to option when it comes to porn.

“I take my iPad with me to the gym and watch porn while I’m on the treadmill. It’s excellent inspiration. The guys using the equipment around me seem to like it too.”  –  Christian Mitchell, porn actor

Who do you watch porn with?

• 82% of gay men generally watch porn by themselves.
• 15% of gay men watch porn sometimes by themselves and sometimes with someone else.
• 3% of gay men generally watch porn with someone else.

“Use of pornography does get discussed by gay couples coming for counselling. Pornography is like all other issues couples bring to counselling  -  it’s not whether the use of pornography is right or wrong, but whether the couple are able to navigate and find a solution if they have different opinions and desires.”  –  Nicholas Rose, relationship counsellor

What makes good porn?

This was a free text response, but we manually coded responses to do some analysis on what guys were telling us.

49% of guys want their porn to feel real, authentic  –  they want the actors to be into the sex, and to have a connection with each other.

“Fucking for porn is completely different from fucking in your private life. That’s why on camera, I try to give actions that are as genuine as possible. The audience can definitely tell if the actors are really having fun or just acting.”  -  Yoshi Kawasaki, porn actor

• 22% of guys want some sort of narrative or context to the sex that they’re watching.
• 19% of guys want their porn to feature a specific type of guy  –  whether that’s bearish guys, muscle guys, big cocks, or something else.
• 17% of guys want their porn to have high production values  -  they want good lighting, clear sound, interesting camera angles.
• 10% of guys specifically prefer amateur porn over professionally produced porn.

“Everyone’s a porn star these days, and it feeds into that insatiable need for more.”  -  Rogan Richards, porn actor and director.

• 8% of guys want their porn to be free of condoms, for them it needs to be bareback in order to be considered good porn.
• 7% of guys want their porn to have intensity  –  they want the sex to be rough, verbal, and very physical.

“I enjoy porn. It’s good at what it does. It arouses you and it’s fun to watch while jerking off. It has a real value. But we’re looking to use the tool of gay erotica in a different way  -  not just to get you off, but to get you in touch with pleasure, connection, intimacy, and so much more.”  –  Davey Wavey, Himeros.TV

• 4% of guys are looking for porn that features some sort of kink.
• 3% of guys enjoy it most when cum-shots are featured.
• 2% of guys think porn is at its best when it features group action.

“I like to keep tabs on what my followers are into and what they find especially hot. I’ll make a mental note of it, so if the opportunity arises, I can work it into what I’m doing on camera.”  –  Christian Mitchell, porn actor

“People respond to the rawness and honesty of my films, or they just respond to how I look and fuck. When I film porn, I try to have as much fun and turn myself on as much as possible, knowing that the end result will have the same effect on my audience.”  –  Rogan Richards, porn actor and director

What are your fantasies?

This was a free text response, but we manually coded responses to do some analysis on what guys were telling us.

• 25% of guys are looking for scenarios that reflect everyday, realistic encounters. Meeting up through a hook-up app, or boyfriends having sex. They want something that’s believable.
• 11% of guys are looking for inter-generational scenarios between older guys and younger guys. 5% of guys would like these inter-generational scenarios to include incest-themed stories such as father/son.
• 9% of guys are looking for scenarios that involve threesomes, group sex or a gang-fuck.
• 6% of guys are looking for scenarios that involve sports or gym encounters.
• 6% of guys are looking for scenarios that are specific to a workplace  –  such as an office, a hospital, or a warehouse.
• 4% of guys are looking for scenarios that involve curious straight guys, students, cruising, uniforms, or outdoor sex.
• 3% of guys are looking for scenarios that involve dystopian, fantasy, or super-heroes, cuckold, massage, hostage, hitchhiker, kink, historical, or home-invasion.

“The one constant I see is that viewers get tired of seeing the same formula after a while, and then they want something new and different.”  –  Kristen Bjorn, porn director

How could porn be better?

This was a free text response, but we manually coded responses to do some analysis on what guys were telling us.

• 21% of guys want their sex to be more realistic. A lot of guys find porn that’s ‘over-produced’ to be a bit of a turn-off.
• 17% of guys highlighted bad acting, or bad dialogue as things that could be improved.
• 4% of guys highlighted that they don’t want music in their porn.

Guys talked about wanting to see the faces of the men having sex, not just wanting penetration close-ups, wanting to see guys undress, and for there to be some foreplay.

But there’s also a lot of guys who just want the actors to get down to it  -  8% of guys highlighted that they wanted their porn to have less build-up and more action.

“Technology has made it easy for guys to film their sexual encounters and post clips online. However, the quality is all over the place  -  it’s just not well done, faceless, and downright boring.”  –  Christian Mitchell, porn actor.

13% of guys want more diversity in their porn. They want to see lots of different guys  –  not just muscle guys, but guys of all shapes, ages, and ethnicity. 10% of guys are specifically looking for porn that features guys with more realistic or everyday bodies, not physiques that they feel are unattainable.

“A subscriber posted a comment in our forum complaining that our models were too versatile. He said he wanted to see more tops who never bottom, because when they do, it ruins the fantasy for him. Another said that he wanted to see more solo scenes. It can be difficult to please everyone.”  –  Kristen Bjorn, porn director.

5% of guys highlighted that they want to see less bareback sex, more condoms, and more of an awareness of health issues. In contrast, 2% of guys highlighted that they want to see less condoms, and more of a celebration of bareback sex.

2% of guys also talked about the cost of porn. For these guys, the porn that they want to access is too expensive  –  they want it at a lower cost or for free.

“Porn is fantasy sex. It’s not surprising that many people don’t want to grapple with the realities of sexual health in their fantasies.”  –  Matthew Hodson, Aidsmap

Suggest a porn scenario that you want to see

We got some fantastic suggestions in response to this question, with a lot of guys keen to see their fantasies reflected in the porn that they watch. Here are some of our favourites:

• Man walks in on his son’s friend smelling his used briefs. Tells him to get on his knees, or he’ll call the cops. The boy obliges, and gets down onto the floor with the briefs in hand. The man unzips his pants and points to his fat bulge in his tight white briefs. The boy starts vigorously forcing his face into the man’s crotch. He takes the man’s dick out through the fly and starts worshipping his cock until the man busts in the boy’s mouth, then pulls out to finish on his face.
• Two ‘down low’ guys meet in line at the store, sense each other, then discover they live in the same apartment building. They get together to watch a football game, and the guest finds a gay porno mag in the host’s bathroom.
• Journalist tries to get a story from a government minister, but he’s captured by security because he knows too much. They’re in a war situation, and the journalist is put under house arrest. The journalist is sexually abused and used by all the security guards and rebel fighters. The government minister is captured along with the journalist, but is detained in the revolutionary guards’ prison, where the prison guards fuck the minister to get information. The torture is extreme anal penetration by monster cocks, but the journalist gently fucks the minister back to health.
• A curious twink, fresh out the closet, running away from home. Along the way, he meets a colourful array of fit guys of every body type. It’d be a sexy coming-of-age story, with jizz.
• Two young gas station attendants, one gives the other a ride home at the end of the day. The driver invites the other guy in to cool off, smoke pot, and eventually go skinny dipping in the backyard pool. The kid’s dad comes home, teases them, then joins in.
• High school team on a bus, they’ve just won the state championship. Bus breaks down on the way to the whorehouse for celebration. All the guys are horny and have to take care of each other’s athletic bodies.
• A black tie formal event where the guests get blowjobs as part of the event, while they stay formally suited. I love formal wear and I hate it when the porn-stars get naked.
• Guys from today go back in time to the golden age of porn, and recreate some of the hottest scenes in gay porn history.
• Gay Wipeout. Like regular Wipeout, but with naked dudes having to complete obstacles without succumbing to the assorted temptations around them. If you cum before the finish line you’re out.
• Starts with a lad stumbling in on his Dad making out with the lad’s boyfriend. Lad watches, gets aroused by his Dad fucking the lad’s own boyfriend. Boyfriend sees him, Dad turns around, and then son joins in.
• A teen is home alone while his parents are abroad. He invites friends over. A group of older burglars break in, and force the guys to have sex.

“Bareback porn now seems mainstream. I’m hoping that kink and fetish porn  –  watersports, fisting, BDSM  –  will become more popular.”  –  Yoshi Kawasaki, porn actor

“We’re looking forward to making the world a more orgasmic place, one gay man at a time.” - Davey Wavey, Himeros.TV

What does all of this tell us?

Porn is part of the everyday life of gay men. It’s something that they’re comfortable talking about, it’s not something they’re embarrassed about. The survey results were anonymous, but we had a lot of interaction with guys during the survey process  –  guys who were keen to take part, wanting to let us know that they’d completed the questions, looking forward to seeing the results and being able to compare their experiences.

What’s interesting is that porn is something that gay men have a definite opinion about, they have an emotional investment in it, they want it to be better, and they can articulate what they want their porn to be.

However, these results only give us part of the picture. We don’t have a clear view of how much gay guys are prepared to pay for the porn that they want to watch. In a rapidly evolving distribution landscape for gay porn, that’s something that would be interesting to understand.

It looks like we’re going to need to ask a lot more questions, and it looks like we’re going to need to watch a lot more gay porn.

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