Have you got Daddy issues?
Whatever age you are, a bit of intergenerational role-play can definitely be a bit of fun – this is a fantasy role-play that’s universally referred to as Daddy/Son.
If you look at the data for any gay porn platform, or read a bit of gay erotic fiction, or just spend a bit of time immersed in gay Twitter, you’ll appreciate that Daddy/Son scenarios are often at the top of the list of what fuels our fap fantasies.
But what draws a lot of gay men to explore a Daddy/Son role play in their relationships and their hook-ups? What is it about inter-generational encounters that excites us and turns us on?
“Just because the body ages, that doesn’t mean that we stop desiring healthy bodies…” explains sexologist Justin David Duwe. “This is programmed into our DNA. Humans are attracted to healthy bodies. Younger bodies tend to be healthier than older ones, so that’s probably one reason for why older men are attracted to younger men. In terms of younger men, they tend to look at older men as a replacement father figure, or see them as having a characteristic that they don’t possess.”
Real-life: Zane Landin
Zane Landin was recently a guest on our podcast, How To Date Men.
In the conversation, Zane shares his experience of an age-gap relationship – his partner is 33 years older than he is.
What’s the appeal of dating younger guys?
There’s lots of reasons why intergenerational connections work. Young guys have lots of energy and enthusiasm – they’re pretty much horny all the time.
Hooking up with a university undergrad is also a good opportunity to explore your teacher/student role-play fantasies. Does he need to be kept back for detention? Perhaps he needs to be disciplined? Maybe you need to put him over your knee and see how he likes being spanked?
Another of our favourite role-plays is to be the Coach who takes charge of an eager but inexperienced player. Maybe your student is on the wrestling team, or the swim team – either way, it’s going to be a sweaty workout before you both get to hit the showers.
Are younger guys interested in connecting with guys who are a bit older?
You can’t really assume what a guy is going to be into. Sure, a young undergrad might be only interested in hooking-up with other students, or water polo players, or guys who can speak three languages. But we’ve all got Daddy issues in some form or another, and it’s pretty clear that there’s plenty of young guys who are totally into hooking up with someone a few years older or from a completely different generation.
It doesn’t have to be a whole Daddy/Son role-play, but young guys are often looking for someone with a bit of experience, someone who can show them the ropes, and someone who could occasionally pay for dinner.